I (33M) use dumpsterfire because it puts everything in perspective. To the outside observer, the list of things she (36F) wants would have people all begging for her to run from me without the knowledge that’s it’s what she’s asked for and we’ve laid ground rules out.
Married for 9 years together for 15, and I will and have gladly helped her explore and learn what she likes. Together through trials and learning, we learned that she’s has a cuckqueen kink, wants to be thrown onto beds, light impact play, freeuse on certain days, items of CNC, light choking, and a few others we can’t think of at the moment. When you add in the financial dynamic because I make enough that she only works because she wants to, the list of potential abuse items is pretty high. We just had the realization that altogether without the reaffirmation of her desires to both the kinks and me, I pull back because of how they make me feel as a person. We have already communicated the need to have the reaffirmation and aftercare of the situation. However, brainstorming ways TO reaffirm her desires and wants we are coming up short. It can’t be that I’m reminding her of it because then it almost feels like I’m enticing her to say those things. Suggestions?
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r/sex I (33M) use dumpsterfire because it puts everything in perspective. To the outside observer, the list of things she (36F) wants would have people all begging for her to run from me without the knowledge that’s it’s what she’s asked for and we’ve laid ground rules out. Married for 9 years together for 15, and I will and have gladly helped her explore and learn what she likes. Together through trials and learning, we learned that she’s has a cuckqueen kink, wants to be thrown onto beds, light impact play, freeuse on certain days, items of CNC, light choking, and a few others we can’t think of at the moment. When you add in the financial dynamic because I make enough that she only works because she wants to, the list of potential abuse items is pretty high. We just had the realization that altogether without the reaffirmation of her desires to both the kinks and me, I pull back because of how they make me feel as a person. We have already communicated the need to have the reaffirmation and aftercare of the situation. However, brainstorming ways TO reaffirm her desires and wants we are coming up short. It can’t be that I’m reminding her of it because then it almost feels like I’m enticing her to say those things. Suggestions? submitted by /u/slipperythings [link] [comments]
I (33M) use dumpsterfire because it puts everything in perspective. To the outside observer, the list of things she (36F) wants would have people all begging for her to run from me without the knowledge that’s it’s what she’s asked for and we’ve laid ground rules out.
Married for 9 years together for 15, and I will and have gladly helped her explore and learn what she likes. Together through trials and learning, we learned that she’s has a cuckqueen kink, wants to be thrown onto beds, light impact play, freeuse on certain days, items of CNC, light choking, and a few others we can’t think of at the moment. When you add in the financial dynamic because I make enough that she only works because she wants to, the list of potential abuse items is pretty high. We just had the realization that altogether without the reaffirmation of her desires to both the kinks and me, I pull back because of how they make me feel as a person. We have already communicated the need to have the reaffirmation and aftercare of the situation. However, brainstorming ways TO reaffirm her desires and wants we are coming up short. It can’t be that I’m reminding her of it because then it almost feels like I’m enticing her to say those things. Suggestions?
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