Any advice on how to go forward relationally if your partner doesn’t want to be intimate? /u/THROWRA_peebles Sex

My (23F) bf (25M) and I have been together for 2 years. I’m really frustrated, sexually, and I tried talking to him about it.

For context, I guess this has been happening for maybe one to three months? He’s been tired a lot more often, and he doesn’t seem to want to have sex. At first, I was fine about it. But, now, it’s come to a head. He’s my first sexual partner, so I’m not really as experienced. He, however, has had multiple partners prior to me. Tonight, I tried explaining to him that I’m feeling a little upset and that I do miss having sex with him. To that, he said that he felt like I was pressuring him, that he wasn’t really in the mood to talk about it, that he was going to bed, and that he loved me. I felt really dismissed.

I feel at a loss at this moment. I don’t even know what to believe. About a month ago, I found out that he still has his ex’s handcuffs that they used to have sex with. We talked about it, and he said that he doesn’t miss anything with her, doesn’t have a reason to throw them away, they’re collecting dust, etc.

I don’t know. With all of this combined, I just feel kinda . . . dismissed. I would just like some tips on how to move forward on my own, sexually. At this point, he can ask for sex himself. I’m tired of asking.

Any advice would be much appreciated. Thank you.

My (23F) bf (25M) and I have been together for 2 years. I’m really frustrated, sexually, and I tried talking to him about it.

For context, I guess this has been happening for maybe one to three months? He’s been tired a lot more often, and he doesn’t seem to want to have sex. At first, I was fine about it. But, now, it’s come to a head. He’s my first sexual partner, so I’m not really as experienced. He, however, has had multiple partners prior to me. Tonight, I tried explaining to him that I’m feeling a little upset and that I do miss having sex with him. To that, he said that he felt like I was pressuring him, that he wasn’t really in the mood to talk about it, that he was going to bed, and that he loved me. I felt really dismissed.

I feel at a loss at this moment. I don’t even know what to believe. About a month ago, I found out that he still has his ex’s handcuffs that they used to have sex with. We talked about it, and he said that he doesn’t miss anything with her, doesn’t have a reason to throw them away, they’re collecting dust, etc.

I don’t know. With all of this combined, I just feel kinda . . . dismissed. I would just like some tips on how to move forward on my own, sexually. At this point, he can ask for sex himself. I’m tired of asking.

Any advice would be much appreciated. Thank you.