My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year. We have a very satisfying sex life as is- he is incredibly attentive to my needs and loves getting me off. He loves to flirt and is always finding new ways to make sure I know I’m desired. We have great chemistry and great communication. Everything in this post has been talked about, I just need advice from someone who isn’t a virgin.
One of the things I worry about is that he wants to wait for marriage (for penetration). I’m not worried about incompatibility or any of the traditional concerns people bring up when hearing someone wants to make that choice— I’m worried that I will eventually stop being satisfied without it. I’ve had sex before (I was in two LTR), and I know what I’m missing. When we started dating, I didn’t think it would be something this stressful— penetration has never been the most satisfying part of sex for me— but I didn’t expect how horny he’d make me, for lack of a better word. When we’re having sex it’s all I can think about, he’s made me want it so bad that I can actually enjoy having sex over the phone, which I spent the last six years being averse to.
It will be a couple of years before we’re ready to get married; the religious convictions driving his decision to wait also make marriage a birth control free zone, and I am therefore not going to take that step until I finish my grad school program. I don’t know how I’m going to be patient enough to wait that long- I am not currently unsatisfied, just anxious for the future.
What can I do to make this boundary easier on myself? And is there anything besides the obvious humping/hands/oral we could do that might keep me more satisfied?
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r/sex My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year. We have a very satisfying sex life as is- he is incredibly attentive to my needs and loves getting me off. He loves to flirt and is always finding new ways to make sure I know I’m desired. We have great chemistry and great communication. Everything in this post has been talked about, I just need advice from someone who isn’t a virgin. One of the things I worry about is that he wants to wait for marriage (for penetration). I’m not worried about incompatibility or any of the traditional concerns people bring up when hearing someone wants to make that choice— I’m worried that I will eventually stop being satisfied without it. I’ve had sex before (I was in two LTR), and I know what I’m missing. When we started dating, I didn’t think it would be something this stressful— penetration has never been the most satisfying part of sex for me— but I didn’t expect how horny he’d make me, for lack of a better word. When we’re having sex it’s all I can think about, he’s made me want it so bad that I can actually enjoy having sex over the phone, which I spent the last six years being averse to. It will be a couple of years before we’re ready to get married; the religious convictions driving his decision to wait also make marriage a birth control free zone, and I am therefore not going to take that step until I finish my grad school program. I don’t know how I’m going to be patient enough to wait that long- I am not currently unsatisfied, just anxious for the future. What can I do to make this boundary easier on myself? And is there anything besides the obvious humping/hands/oral we could do that might keep me more satisfied? submitted by /u/CoatAffectionate2367 [link] [comments]
My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year. We have a very satisfying sex life as is- he is incredibly attentive to my needs and loves getting me off. He loves to flirt and is always finding new ways to make sure I know I’m desired. We have great chemistry and great communication. Everything in this post has been talked about, I just need advice from someone who isn’t a virgin.
One of the things I worry about is that he wants to wait for marriage (for penetration). I’m not worried about incompatibility or any of the traditional concerns people bring up when hearing someone wants to make that choice— I’m worried that I will eventually stop being satisfied without it. I’ve had sex before (I was in two LTR), and I know what I’m missing. When we started dating, I didn’t think it would be something this stressful— penetration has never been the most satisfying part of sex for me— but I didn’t expect how horny he’d make me, for lack of a better word. When we’re having sex it’s all I can think about, he’s made me want it so bad that I can actually enjoy having sex over the phone, which I spent the last six years being averse to.
It will be a couple of years before we’re ready to get married; the religious convictions driving his decision to wait also make marriage a birth control free zone, and I am therefore not going to take that step until I finish my grad school program. I don’t know how I’m going to be patient enough to wait that long- I am not currently unsatisfied, just anxious for the future.
What can I do to make this boundary easier on myself? And is there anything besides the obvious humping/hands/oral we could do that might keep me more satisfied?
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