Hi everyone, my (22F) bf (21M) experimented with himself and realized a lot about himself while I was away from winter break.
To give some background on us, I am a straight girl who is usually submissive sexually, and outside of the bedroom I’m a very feminine girl that usually lets my bf take charge
My bf is a bisexual man who is attracted to femininity, and leans heavily towards women and very feminine men (like femboys). Sexually he is very dominant most of the time, and outside of the bedroom he’s very masculine and likes to take charge and “lead”.
Lately however he expressed that he wants to almost roleplay as a girl / femme being, and he went on grindr and made a very submissive profile and talked to men for like 3 days, almost like he was in this trance, and eventually he hooked up with this masc man. He wore my panties, and he even wore my skirt and tank top while he was taking pictures. He said he felt weird, he said he felt like it wasn’t himself, but it was hot, he was like roleplaying the girl of his dreams, this submissive feminine being, but this time he WAS that person. He also had to figure out his bisexuality with all of this, and he realized he does like masculine men but only in this mood (at least that’s what he says).
At first I was so off put by this that I wanted to break up, but the more we talked about it and understood it, the more I saw myself in this too. I used to go on grindr myself (just because I’m really attracted to men) and I’d play this character of a very masculine man, this “dominant alpha top”, and while I did like what I was typing, it was NOT the real me, it was me roleplaying as my “dream man”, and my bf told me it was the same thing for him except reversed and he was roleplaying his dream woman, which is why he acted so much like me.
This is all so confusing and I want to go see a specialist about this, because i’m scared it’s something more. I don’t want to lose my masculine man 🙁
He tells me that he almost feels MORE masculine after this, almost like how I felt more feminine after I pretended to be this “alpha top”, because when I was playing that character, I was imagining almost that I was the other person, and the person I was acting like was the person I wanted, it was a weird experience, almost like out of body, and my bf told me that’s exactly how he felt too.
He still wants to be masculine, he still desires to be a man, but I’m scared he’s maybe more than this and just doesn’t know it yet, and I don’t want to spend another 3 years with him only for him to say “heyy so this stuff might be more than sexual..”
If this can only remain sexual, I really don’t care and I actually like it, but if this stuff goes beyond sexual, and he starts to be like “sometimes I want to wear your clothes around the house but in a non-sexual way” then that would be a dealbreaker because I really like that my man is masculine. And if he wants to be submissive sometimes sexually I don’t care, because sometimes I want to be dominant in a “manly” way. But outside of sex, I want to be feminine 100% of the time, whatever what means lol.
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r/sex Hi everyone, my (22F) bf (21M) experimented with himself and realized a lot about himself while I was away from winter break. To give some background on us, I am a straight girl who is usually submissive sexually, and outside of the bedroom I’m a very feminine girl that usually lets my bf take charge My bf is a bisexual man who is attracted to femininity, and leans heavily towards women and very feminine men (like femboys). Sexually he is very dominant most of the time, and outside of the bedroom he’s very masculine and likes to take charge and “lead”. Lately however he expressed that he wants to almost roleplay as a girl / femme being, and he went on grindr and made a very submissive profile and talked to men for like 3 days, almost like he was in this trance, and eventually he hooked up with this masc man. He wore my panties, and he even wore my skirt and tank top while he was taking pictures. He said he felt weird, he said he felt like it wasn’t himself, but it was hot, he was like roleplaying the girl of his dreams, this submissive feminine being, but this time he WAS that person. He also had to figure out his bisexuality with all of this, and he realized he does like masculine men but only in this mood (at least that’s what he says). At first I was so off put by this that I wanted to break up, but the more we talked about it and understood it, the more I saw myself in this too. I used to go on grindr myself (just because I’m really attracted to men) and I’d play this character of a very masculine man, this “dominant alpha top”, and while I did like what I was typing, it was NOT the real me, it was me roleplaying as my “dream man”, and my bf told me it was the same thing for him except reversed and he was roleplaying his dream woman, which is why he acted so much like me. This is all so confusing and I want to go see a specialist about this, because i’m scared it’s something more. I don’t want to lose my masculine man 🙁 He tells me that he almost feels MORE masculine after this, almost like how I felt more feminine after I pretended to be this “alpha top”, because when I was playing that character, I was imagining almost that I was the other person, and the person I was acting like was the person I wanted, it was a weird experience, almost like out of body, and my bf told me that’s exactly how he felt too. He still wants to be masculine, he still desires to be a man, but I’m scared he’s maybe more than this and just doesn’t know it yet, and I don’t want to spend another 3 years with him only for him to say “heyy so this stuff might be more than sexual..” If this can only remain sexual, I really don’t care and I actually like it, but if this stuff goes beyond sexual, and he starts to be like “sometimes I want to wear your clothes around the house but in a non-sexual way” then that would be a dealbreaker because I really like that my man is masculine. And if he wants to be submissive sometimes sexually I don’t care, because sometimes I want to be dominant in a “manly” way. But outside of sex, I want to be feminine 100% of the time, whatever what means lol. submitted by /u/sillywillysjfjskdn [link] [comments]
Hi everyone, my (22F) bf (21M) experimented with himself and realized a lot about himself while I was away from winter break.
To give some background on us, I am a straight girl who is usually submissive sexually, and outside of the bedroom I’m a very feminine girl that usually lets my bf take charge
My bf is a bisexual man who is attracted to femininity, and leans heavily towards women and very feminine men (like femboys). Sexually he is very dominant most of the time, and outside of the bedroom he’s very masculine and likes to take charge and “lead”.
Lately however he expressed that he wants to almost roleplay as a girl / femme being, and he went on grindr and made a very submissive profile and talked to men for like 3 days, almost like he was in this trance, and eventually he hooked up with this masc man. He wore my panties, and he even wore my skirt and tank top while he was taking pictures. He said he felt weird, he said he felt like it wasn’t himself, but it was hot, he was like roleplaying the girl of his dreams, this submissive feminine being, but this time he WAS that person. He also had to figure out his bisexuality with all of this, and he realized he does like masculine men but only in this mood (at least that’s what he says).
At first I was so off put by this that I wanted to break up, but the more we talked about it and understood it, the more I saw myself in this too. I used to go on grindr myself (just because I’m really attracted to men) and I’d play this character of a very masculine man, this “dominant alpha top”, and while I did like what I was typing, it was NOT the real me, it was me roleplaying as my “dream man”, and my bf told me it was the same thing for him except reversed and he was roleplaying his dream woman, which is why he acted so much like me.
This is all so confusing and I want to go see a specialist about this, because i’m scared it’s something more. I don’t want to lose my masculine man 🙁
He tells me that he almost feels MORE masculine after this, almost like how I felt more feminine after I pretended to be this “alpha top”, because when I was playing that character, I was imagining almost that I was the other person, and the person I was acting like was the person I wanted, it was a weird experience, almost like out of body, and my bf told me that’s exactly how he felt too.
He still wants to be masculine, he still desires to be a man, but I’m scared he’s maybe more than this and just doesn’t know it yet, and I don’t want to spend another 3 years with him only for him to say “heyy so this stuff might be more than sexual..”
If this can only remain sexual, I really don’t care and I actually like it, but if this stuff goes beyond sexual, and he starts to be like “sometimes I want to wear your clothes around the house but in a non-sexual way” then that would be a dealbreaker because I really like that my man is masculine. And if he wants to be submissive sometimes sexually I don’t care, because sometimes I want to be dominant in a “manly” way. But outside of sex, I want to be feminine 100% of the time, whatever what means lol.
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