Can a submissive kink in the bedroom affect the overall dynamic of a relationship? can someone be submissive in bed but dominant otherwise? /u/Terrible-Loquat8723 Sex

Hey Reddit,

First, I want to mention that I’m Muslim so the most I can do to see if I’m sexually compatible with someone is conversation since I’m waiting for marriage, I’m saying this because it’s relevant to my problem.

So, I’ve been dating a guy for a while now with the intention of marriage and he’s opened up about having a submissive side in the bedroom, and honestly, I’m feeling a bit unsure about it. He’s also very dominant irl, decisive, responsible, and takes charge in all the important life stuff, like finances and future plans. I appreciate this about him, and we’ve been really good at balancing these roles especially since we both appreciate traditional gender roles.

Here’s my concern: I’m wondering if his submissive kink could affect our dynamic in the relationship outside of intimacy. I’m not really into being the dominant one in every aspect of life, but he has expressed that he loves me enough not to let this be an issue. He’s told me that even if I were “vanilla”, he would still want to stay in the relationship and make it work. However, I’m still concerned, what if he starts expecting me to take the lead in everything or, worse, wants me to “baby” him after submitting to me in bed and enjoying it? I’m just trying to figure out if this could potentially change how we handle everything else, especially long-term.

Has anyone been in a similar situation? Can a submissive kink in the bedroom really stay separate from the rest of the relationship?

Appreciate any advice or personal experiences!

Hey Reddit,

First, I want to mention that I’m Muslim so the most I can do to see if I’m sexually compatible with someone is conversation since I’m waiting for marriage, I’m saying this because it’s relevant to my problem.

So, I’ve been dating a guy for a while now with the intention of marriage and he’s opened up about having a submissive side in the bedroom, and honestly, I’m feeling a bit unsure about it. He’s also very dominant irl, decisive, responsible, and takes charge in all the important life stuff, like finances and future plans. I appreciate this about him, and we’ve been really good at balancing these roles especially since we both appreciate traditional gender roles.

Here’s my concern: I’m wondering if his submissive kink could affect our dynamic in the relationship outside of intimacy. I’m not really into being the dominant one in every aspect of life, but he has expressed that he loves me enough not to let this be an issue. He’s told me that even if I were “vanilla”, he would still want to stay in the relationship and make it work. However, I’m still concerned, what if he starts expecting me to take the lead in everything or, worse, wants me to “baby” him after submitting to me in bed and enjoying it? I’m just trying to figure out if this could potentially change how we handle everything else, especially long-term.

Has anyone been in a similar situation? Can a submissive kink in the bedroom really stay separate from the rest of the relationship?

Appreciate any advice or personal experiences!