Party won’t let me flirt with NPC since I’m a woman playing a male character. /u/KnowledgeBusy4175 DnD: Roll for Initiative!

I’m a 22F and have been playing campaign with 4 others for a couple of months now (3M and 1F). It has been mostly great with a couple of issues that get resolved fairly quickly, until the last few sessions where there has been a problem that’s been irking me.

We are a party of 4. 2 male and 2 female. All of the other players are playing as female characters, but I am playing a male character.

More recently, the party has been dabbling with romance and flirting with the NPCs, which everyone was comfortable doing. I never really did it to begin, mostly because I just didn’t want to, but I didn’t mind the others doing it.

Whenever a player flirted with an NPC, it felt like the DM would let it be a success no matter what (people rolled 4s and 5s and were still successful). I decided to give it a go as well and flirted with a female NPC. I rolled a 16, but the DM said I failed the check. I found this odd since all other party members easily passed. I questioned why and they just told me “Now you know what it feels like to be a man IRL” and just laughed. I tried again a bit later and still it seemed like the DM wouldn’t let me succeed and their response was the same.

This made me a bit annoyed and I don’t really know how to feel about it. What should I do?

TLDR: DM won’t let me successfully flirt with NPCs as a male character even though all other party members successfully flirt playing female characters.

I’m a 22F and have been playing campaign with 4 others for a couple of months now (3M and 1F). It has been mostly great with a couple of issues that get resolved fairly quickly, until the last few sessions where there has been a problem that’s been irking me.

We are a party of 4. 2 male and 2 female. All of the other players are playing as female characters, but I am playing a male character.

More recently, the party has been dabbling with romance and flirting with the NPCs, which everyone was comfortable doing. I never really did it to begin, mostly because I just didn’t want to, but I didn’t mind the others doing it.

Whenever a player flirted with an NPC, it felt like the DM would let it be a success no matter what (people rolled 4s and 5s and were still successful). I decided to give it a go as well and flirted with a female NPC. I rolled a 16, but the DM said I failed the check. I found this odd since all other party members easily passed. I questioned why and they just told me “Now you know what it feels like to be a man IRL” and just laughed. I tried again a bit later and still it seemed like the DM wouldn’t let me succeed and their response was the same.

This made me a bit annoyed and I don’t really know how to feel about it. What should I do?

TLDR: DM won’t let me successfully flirt with NPCs as a male character even though all other party members successfully flirt playing female characters.