Our marriage was doing so good. I apologize if this is all over the place I’m going to try and give all the details without it being too long. (If your super interested check my history but I don’t expect you to)
We struggle with having a sexual connection. Well he does. We came to the conclusion back in June that it was because he had been jacking off and occasionally watching porn. (No there is not an issue with masturbating or porn in my opinion as long as it doesn’t affect the couples relationship) in my case it did. He didn’t want any intimacy with me.
Fast forward we worked on it and have been. A couple weeks ago I posted about how to be more dominate for him because that’s what he wants. I did so and things seemed fine. Thought everything between us was going so good. We started being more sexual, we had sex 2 days in a row which is a win. Because we have only had sex 8 times since JUNE… so I thought things were finally getting back to normal. I was becoming happy again…
Until
Fast forward to today… I had came home earlier then expect and ultimately caught him in the act of masturbating. I walked in the room and he asked me why I was home, then I tried to hop on him and he made it known he didn’t want me touching him(because he was hard) and didn’t want me knowing or asking questions. Well I did because I just had the gut feeling. He was honest and said yes he was, it was the first time in a long time, ect blah blah.
Okay my concern is. If I didn’t come home and catch on to what was happening, he would start masturbating again and then eventually he would become sexually distant towards me AGAIN. He told me we don’t know if that will happen, but logically the past shows when he is doing this he doesn’t feel the need to be sexual with me.
I told him i didn’t want to be in a marriage if he continues to choose masturbation over sex with me. Well I can’t help but feel if I didn’t catch him today and time went out I would catch my self begging for affection and intimacy again.
Also how can I trust him? He admitted he wouldn’t have told me if I didn’t catch him.
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r/sex Our marriage was doing so good. I apologize if this is all over the place I’m going to try and give all the details without it being too long. (If your super interested check my history but I don’t expect you to) We struggle with having a sexual connection. Well he does. We came to the conclusion back in June that it was because he had been jacking off and occasionally watching porn. (No there is not an issue with masturbating or porn in my opinion as long as it doesn’t affect the couples relationship) in my case it did. He didn’t want any intimacy with me. Fast forward we worked on it and have been. A couple weeks ago I posted about how to be more dominate for him because that’s what he wants. I did so and things seemed fine. Thought everything between us was going so good. We started being more sexual, we had sex 2 days in a row which is a win. Because we have only had sex 8 times since JUNE… so I thought things were finally getting back to normal. I was becoming happy again… Until Fast forward to today… I had came home earlier then expect and ultimately caught him in the act of masturbating. I walked in the room and he asked me why I was home, then I tried to hop on him and he made it known he didn’t want me touching him(because he was hard) and didn’t want me knowing or asking questions. Well I did because I just had the gut feeling. He was honest and said yes he was, it was the first time in a long time, ect blah blah. Okay my concern is. If I didn’t come home and catch on to what was happening, he would start masturbating again and then eventually he would become sexually distant towards me AGAIN. He told me we don’t know if that will happen, but logically the past shows when he is doing this he doesn’t feel the need to be sexual with me. I told him i didn’t want to be in a marriage if he continues to choose masturbation over sex with me. Well I can’t help but feel if I didn’t catch him today and time went out I would catch my self begging for affection and intimacy again. Also how can I trust him? He admitted he wouldn’t have told me if I didn’t catch him. submitted by /u/LifeCareless4077 [link] [comments]
Our marriage was doing so good. I apologize if this is all over the place I’m going to try and give all the details without it being too long. (If your super interested check my history but I don’t expect you to)
We struggle with having a sexual connection. Well he does. We came to the conclusion back in June that it was because he had been jacking off and occasionally watching porn. (No there is not an issue with masturbating or porn in my opinion as long as it doesn’t affect the couples relationship) in my case it did. He didn’t want any intimacy with me.
Fast forward we worked on it and have been. A couple weeks ago I posted about how to be more dominate for him because that’s what he wants. I did so and things seemed fine. Thought everything between us was going so good. We started being more sexual, we had sex 2 days in a row which is a win. Because we have only had sex 8 times since JUNE… so I thought things were finally getting back to normal. I was becoming happy again…
Until
Fast forward to today… I had came home earlier then expect and ultimately caught him in the act of masturbating. I walked in the room and he asked me why I was home, then I tried to hop on him and he made it known he didn’t want me touching him(because he was hard) and didn’t want me knowing or asking questions. Well I did because I just had the gut feeling. He was honest and said yes he was, it was the first time in a long time, ect blah blah.
Okay my concern is. If I didn’t come home and catch on to what was happening, he would start masturbating again and then eventually he would become sexually distant towards me AGAIN. He told me we don’t know if that will happen, but logically the past shows when he is doing this he doesn’t feel the need to be sexual with me.
I told him i didn’t want to be in a marriage if he continues to choose masturbation over sex with me. Well I can’t help but feel if I didn’t catch him today and time went out I would catch my self begging for affection and intimacy again.
Also how can I trust him? He admitted he wouldn’t have told me if I didn’t catch him.
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