My boyfriend (39M) and I (28F) have been dating for 5 years now. At the beginning of our relationship we had sex frequently, 3-4 times a week, going for multiple rounds, and long sessions (1hr+) at least once a week.
I’m someone who has an extremely high sexual appetite, and I thought 3-4 times a week was my compromise. Now I’m 5 years in and lucky if we get 5 minutes once a week. No additional rounds. Even when I ask for another round he doesn’t desire to and I respect his decision, but what about my needs?
I’ve tried to talk to him about the frequency and duration of sex and he tells me that he needs to take pills to make him last that long and chalks it up to that he’s aging. I don’t mind if he wants to take the pills, but even with the pill it’s only one short round? Additionally, he has no issue masturbating to porn multiple times a week for hours on end, while I’m waiting, hoping, praying for him all week to initiate.
After being rejected so many times by him I’m no longer brave enough to initiate because it feels like I’m forcing him to. I get by with my own masturbation but it’s not a replacement for sex. It’s hard to not take it personally at times.
If you’ve going through something similar, how are you working things out? What helps?
Tldr; my relationship has significantly less sex than it did at the beginning. Boyfriend has no problem masturbating to porn though, so what gives? Need advice
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r/sex My boyfriend (39M) and I (28F) have been dating for 5 years now. At the beginning of our relationship we had sex frequently, 3-4 times a week, going for multiple rounds, and long sessions (1hr+) at least once a week. I’m someone who has an extremely high sexual appetite, and I thought 3-4 times a week was my compromise. Now I’m 5 years in and lucky if we get 5 minutes once a week. No additional rounds. Even when I ask for another round he doesn’t desire to and I respect his decision, but what about my needs? I’ve tried to talk to him about the frequency and duration of sex and he tells me that he needs to take pills to make him last that long and chalks it up to that he’s aging. I don’t mind if he wants to take the pills, but even with the pill it’s only one short round? Additionally, he has no issue masturbating to porn multiple times a week for hours on end, while I’m waiting, hoping, praying for him all week to initiate. After being rejected so many times by him I’m no longer brave enough to initiate because it feels like I’m forcing him to. I get by with my own masturbation but it’s not a replacement for sex. It’s hard to not take it personally at times. If you’ve going through something similar, how are you working things out? What helps? Tldr; my relationship has significantly less sex than it did at the beginning. Boyfriend has no problem masturbating to porn though, so what gives? Need advice submitted by /u/sleeplesspindles [link] [comments]
My boyfriend (39M) and I (28F) have been dating for 5 years now. At the beginning of our relationship we had sex frequently, 3-4 times a week, going for multiple rounds, and long sessions (1hr+) at least once a week.
I’m someone who has an extremely high sexual appetite, and I thought 3-4 times a week was my compromise. Now I’m 5 years in and lucky if we get 5 minutes once a week. No additional rounds. Even when I ask for another round he doesn’t desire to and I respect his decision, but what about my needs?
I’ve tried to talk to him about the frequency and duration of sex and he tells me that he needs to take pills to make him last that long and chalks it up to that he’s aging. I don’t mind if he wants to take the pills, but even with the pill it’s only one short round? Additionally, he has no issue masturbating to porn multiple times a week for hours on end, while I’m waiting, hoping, praying for him all week to initiate.
After being rejected so many times by him I’m no longer brave enough to initiate because it feels like I’m forcing him to. I get by with my own masturbation but it’s not a replacement for sex. It’s hard to not take it personally at times.
If you’ve going through something similar, how are you working things out? What helps?
Tldr; my relationship has significantly less sex than it did at the beginning. Boyfriend has no problem masturbating to porn though, so what gives? Need advice
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