Gf pretends during sex, help? /u/povo_de_hadas_ Sex

Hi reddit and excuse my english

I’ve been in a relationship for 2 years, we’re both 24, and I’m having an issue with intimacy in my relationship: she’s having sex with me only to feel ‘hot’ and/or to make me happy or connect with me, not because she has desire or enjoys the act itself.

How do I realize it?

• She acts like she’s really hot, moves and moans like a pornstar. It’s so exaggerated and fake.
• When I don’t want to have sex or when I don’t tell her she’s gorgeous during sex, she says she’s “afraid of being ugly or that I don’t love her anymore.”
• Once the sex starts, she wants it to be over quickly. When I suggest doing things for her pleasure, she usually says that “she wants me to enjoy” or that “she’s tired.” As soon as I finish, all her “horniness” disappears (she was never really horny)

Sometimes I see her actually enjoying it, and it’s very different from the “show” I usually get. But to get there, I have to give it my all for 3 hrs until I’m exhausted, it’s not something I can do all the time (I should clarify that I’ve never had problems with my previous partners, I know it’s not me).

Every so often I try to bring up the topic and ask her what I can do to make her enjoy it more. She gets angry, tells me I’m wrong, that I can’t speak for her, that she does enjoy it, and that she feels like I’m pressuring her to enjoy it.

This fake sex is driving me crazy and it’s starting to frustrate me and she doesn’t want to talk about it. I’m open to experiences or advice.

Hi reddit and excuse my english

I’ve been in a relationship for 2 years, we’re both 24, and I’m having an issue with intimacy in my relationship: she’s having sex with me only to feel ‘hot’ and/or to make me happy or connect with me, not because she has desire or enjoys the act itself.

How do I realize it?

• She acts like she’s really hot, moves and moans like a pornstar. It’s so exaggerated and fake.
• When I don’t want to have sex or when I don’t tell her she’s gorgeous during sex, she says she’s “afraid of being ugly or that I don’t love her anymore.”
• Once the sex starts, she wants it to be over quickly. When I suggest doing things for her pleasure, she usually says that “she wants me to enjoy” or that “she’s tired.” As soon as I finish, all her “horniness” disappears (she was never really horny)

Sometimes I see her actually enjoying it, and it’s very different from the “show” I usually get. But to get there, I have to give it my all for 3 hrs until I’m exhausted, it’s not something I can do all the time (I should clarify that I’ve never had problems with my previous partners, I know it’s not me).

Every so often I try to bring up the topic and ask her what I can do to make her enjoy it more. She gets angry, tells me I’m wrong, that I can’t speak for her, that she does enjoy it, and that she feels like I’m pressuring her to enjoy it.

This fake sex is driving me crazy and it’s starting to frustrate me and she doesn’t want to talk about it. I’m open to experiences or advice.