Was this behaviour of my ex bf normal or acceptable? /u/greenbroccoli13 Sex

To give context, he’s in another part of world and I am in India. Major time difference so we would meet once a year.

Whenever he would come here, he would mention his kinks to choke me, pull my hair tightly. I would share that I am not comfortable but he would somehow coax me into it gently, mentioning how he would not see me again for a year and that he would miss me.

I would give into it, and when we would do as his kinks, it would feel okay, neutral. Slightly on the side of being tiny bit forceful. But it would reinforce bond between us.

I want to say, I’d like it but also would find it a bit odd because he would nudge me to do it. I felt very conflicted. I tried talking to him about this but he doesn’t bother explaining about the nudging part.

So, I want to ask if guys do this and how do females feel about complying to your partner’s kink even if it made you uncomfortable?

He’s my ex now but I would want to know how to navigate this in future.

To give context, he’s in another part of world and I am in India. Major time difference so we would meet once a year.

Whenever he would come here, he would mention his kinks to choke me, pull my hair tightly. I would share that I am not comfortable but he would somehow coax me into it gently, mentioning how he would not see me again for a year and that he would miss me.

I would give into it, and when we would do as his kinks, it would feel okay, neutral. Slightly on the side of being tiny bit forceful. But it would reinforce bond between us.

I want to say, I’d like it but also would find it a bit odd because he would nudge me to do it. I felt very conflicted. I tried talking to him about this but he doesn’t bother explaining about the nudging part.

So, I want to ask if guys do this and how do females feel about complying to your partner’s kink even if it made you uncomfortable?

He’s my ex now but I would want to know how to navigate this in future.