Our lovemaking doesn’t match our feelings for one another /u/sydddi Sex

I love my husband so much. He’s HIM. Kind, hilarious, consistent, provides, has a muscular body, loves me intensely…but that brings me to my complaint. I’ve had more passionate sex with a guy I met off an app back in 2021. And our connection outside of sex was empty. But we had a way of “talking” (whispering in my ear, sucking my toes, etc), that I desperately wish I had with my actual husband, the man who gave me such a large part of his life. And he’s less experienced than myself, so I recognize I need to be easygoing with him but it’s so hard. My body CRAVES the mind-bending, intimate, animalistic kind of lovemaking that I’ve been exposed to so how do I guide him into being intensely passionate/freaky about sex? We do love each other, I desperately wish we could translate it in the sheets. He’s patient and open to the discussion but the execution continues to fall flat.

I love my husband so much. He’s HIM. Kind, hilarious, consistent, provides, has a muscular body, loves me intensely…but that brings me to my complaint. I’ve had more passionate sex with a guy I met off an app back in 2021. And our connection outside of sex was empty. But we had a way of “talking” (whispering in my ear, sucking my toes, etc), that I desperately wish I had with my actual husband, the man who gave me such a large part of his life. And he’s less experienced than myself, so I recognize I need to be easygoing with him but it’s so hard. My body CRAVES the mind-bending, intimate, animalistic kind of lovemaking that I’ve been exposed to so how do I guide him into being intensely passionate/freaky about sex? We do love each other, I desperately wish we could translate it in the sheets. He’s patient and open to the discussion but the execution continues to fall flat.