I feel sexually unsatisfied in my relationship /u/Moist_Car_994 Sex

I’m 28 and my girlfriend is 27, we’ve been together for 6 months now and in every other regard our relationship is great and is probably one of the healthiest ones I’ve ever been in but we’re lacking in the sex department.

See, she has a condition that makes vaginal penetration painful for her and before we even started seriously dating she told me about that but that really wasn’t a deal breaker for me since I know sex can be more than just penetrative. However when we do end up getting intimate I’m often left feeling neglected, unsatisfied and frankly undesirable, I like to think I’m a very giving lover I make it my goal to make sure my partner orgasms before I do because their pleasure is paramount to me so sometimes sex for us is just me going down on her making her cum and then we call it a day which I normally don’t mind I’m actually more than okay with that more often than not. But the favor isn’t really returned when I am in the mood to “get mine”

Like I stated vaginal penetration is off the table, she’s completely grossed out by the thought of anything to do with anal and she’s been traumatized by past relationships and is nervous around penises as a result. In the time we’ve been together she’s only given me a blowjob three times (neither time to completion) and not even so much as a hand job.

It’s like I put in so much effort to make sure she cums but on the occasions I want the same energy and effort it’s not reciprocated or even offered so all I get out of it is frustration and a wet spot in my underwear ending in me having to finish myself off when i get home or she leaves my place. Sometimes i feel like sexually I desire her more than she desires me.

Has anyone else ever gone through something like this and If so how did you handle it? How do I best bring this up to her without making her feel guilty or hurting her feelings?

Any advice helps.

I’m 28 and my girlfriend is 27, we’ve been together for 6 months now and in every other regard our relationship is great and is probably one of the healthiest ones I’ve ever been in but we’re lacking in the sex department.

See, she has a condition that makes vaginal penetration painful for her and before we even started seriously dating she told me about that but that really wasn’t a deal breaker for me since I know sex can be more than just penetrative. However when we do end up getting intimate I’m often left feeling neglected, unsatisfied and frankly undesirable, I like to think I’m a very giving lover I make it my goal to make sure my partner orgasms before I do because their pleasure is paramount to me so sometimes sex for us is just me going down on her making her cum and then we call it a day which I normally don’t mind I’m actually more than okay with that more often than not. But the favor isn’t really returned when I am in the mood to “get mine”

Like I stated vaginal penetration is off the table, she’s completely grossed out by the thought of anything to do with anal and she’s been traumatized by past relationships and is nervous around penises as a result. In the time we’ve been together she’s only given me a blowjob three times (neither time to completion) and not even so much as a hand job.

It’s like I put in so much effort to make sure she cums but on the occasions I want the same energy and effort it’s not reciprocated or even offered so all I get out of it is frustration and a wet spot in my underwear ending in me having to finish myself off when i get home or she leaves my place. Sometimes i feel like sexually I desire her more than she desires me.

Has anyone else ever gone through something like this and If so how did you handle it? How do I best bring this up to her without making her feel guilty or hurting her feelings?

Any advice helps.