How worried about STDs should I be? /u/fufu1260 Sex

So I was supposed to see this guy this weekend but he decided not to come since I was terribly indecisive. But like the reasons I was indecisive was cause he had slept with another girl and I also had slept with another guy and I wanted us to get tested before having sex but he thought it was fine. Ironic cause he wanted me to get tested before we had sex last time before he had been with the girl.

So the thing is. I was gonna have sex with him cause he was literally only with one single girl but when I talked about it to my dr, she got concerned and said she didn’t trust him. And wanted him to get tested. Then I talked about it with my sister who also said he should get tested and even suggested that he was lying about who’s he been with (please note he has never lied to me and he’s the one who also asked to sexually exclusive with me when we are seeing each other (he’s very monogamous)). So I got freaked out.

But like. How worried should I have been? It was just one girl. And the guy I had sex with had gotten tested a week or two before seeing me. But like I don’t know. If he knew when she had gotten last tested and it had been recent I would have been more open.

Now I’m just sad cause I really did want to have sex but I was just scared cause everyone Imposed their ideas onto me. And I’m a huge people pleaser. I regret being indecisive but I care about my health. I feel stupid. But I guess I just need some more people to tell me for sure whether I am or not.

So I was supposed to see this guy this weekend but he decided not to come since I was terribly indecisive. But like the reasons I was indecisive was cause he had slept with another girl and I also had slept with another guy and I wanted us to get tested before having sex but he thought it was fine. Ironic cause he wanted me to get tested before we had sex last time before he had been with the girl.

So the thing is. I was gonna have sex with him cause he was literally only with one single girl but when I talked about it to my dr, she got concerned and said she didn’t trust him. And wanted him to get tested. Then I talked about it with my sister who also said he should get tested and even suggested that he was lying about who’s he been with (please note he has never lied to me and he’s the one who also asked to sexually exclusive with me when we are seeing each other (he’s very monogamous)). So I got freaked out.

But like. How worried should I have been? It was just one girl. And the guy I had sex with had gotten tested a week or two before seeing me. But like I don’t know. If he knew when she had gotten last tested and it had been recent I would have been more open.

Now I’m just sad cause I really did want to have sex but I was just scared cause everyone Imposed their ideas onto me. And I’m a huge people pleaser. I regret being indecisive but I care about my health. I feel stupid. But I guess I just need some more people to tell me for sure whether I am or not.