Are my standards for casual too high? /u/Specific-Finance-122 Sex

Like maybe I’m supposed to have lower standards if I wanna see people casually to hookup, I could use some 2nd opinions. I’ve (26F) only went all the way with 5 people and I was seeing them all casually.

When talking to a guy casually, I’m only interested going further than making out if: 1) He’s good about getting tested or at least gets one if I ask him to. 2) He’s respectful. I want him to care about my pleasure too, and to meet up when I’m also in the mood to (not when it’s only convenient for him, feels like they’re just treating me like their life-sized sex toy at that point).

I don’t like one night stands, I’m more into friends with benefits. I don’t know if this is dramatic but the last guy I talked to casually was super desperate and thirsty and only messaged me when he was horny (occasionally it was at like 2am). I last sent him a text saying “Wanna drink” at 7-8 pm one night, and he was like “I’m too tired”. A few months before this, I sent him dirty/vulgar texts and it was still “I’m too tired”. Like he literally just wants to use me only when it’s convenient for him, it’s annoying and puts me down. I never ended up doing anything past making out with him because I don’t want to hookup with a guy like this. Are my standards for casual too high or are they reasonable?

Edit: wow thanks for all the support guys!!

Like maybe I’m supposed to have lower standards if I wanna see people casually to hookup, I could use some 2nd opinions. I’ve (26F) only went all the way with 5 people and I was seeing them all casually.

When talking to a guy casually, I’m only interested going further than making out if: 1) He’s good about getting tested or at least gets one if I ask him to. 2) He’s respectful. I want him to care about my pleasure too, and to meet up when I’m also in the mood to (not when it’s only convenient for him, feels like they’re just treating me like their life-sized sex toy at that point).

I don’t like one night stands, I’m more into friends with benefits. I don’t know if this is dramatic but the last guy I talked to casually was super desperate and thirsty and only messaged me when he was horny (occasionally it was at like 2am). I last sent him a text saying “Wanna drink” at 7-8 pm one night, and he was like “I’m too tired”. A few months before this, I sent him dirty/vulgar texts and it was still “I’m too tired”. Like he literally just wants to use me only when it’s convenient for him, it’s annoying and puts me down. I never ended up doing anything past making out with him because I don’t want to hookup with a guy like this. Are my standards for casual too high or are they reasonable?

Edit: wow thanks for all the support guys!!