Just like the title says. We have been dating 8 months and neither of us is religious and we are both bisexual. We don’t live together yet and I always desire her and am ready and willing. I also never masturbate at her house or when we spend the night together. But if I’m spending the rare night at my house and we haven’t had sex in a day or two I might jerk off which I think is normal. But whenever I spend a night to myself she will ask if I jerked off and if I say yes she gets pretty upset. Now I have agreed not to watch porn bc it makes her feel she is not enough, but when we had that decision I said I’ll give up porn bc I can see how it is unhealthy but I reserve the right to take of myself if I feel the need or desire. But now she will tell me before I go to my house “you better save it for me” and I just feel controlled and like she is setting an unfair boundary bc I didn’t agree to that. What should I do? When I try and bring it up with her that I’m not comfortable with that it turns into a fight. Is this normal? How can I explain to her this makes me feel controlled. Thank you..
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r/sex Just like the title says. We have been dating 8 months and neither of us is religious and we are both bisexual. We don’t live together yet and I always desire her and am ready and willing. I also never masturbate at her house or when we spend the night together. But if I’m spending the rare night at my house and we haven’t had sex in a day or two I might jerk off which I think is normal. But whenever I spend a night to myself she will ask if I jerked off and if I say yes she gets pretty upset. Now I have agreed not to watch porn bc it makes her feel she is not enough, but when we had that decision I said I’ll give up porn bc I can see how it is unhealthy but I reserve the right to take of myself if I feel the need or desire. But now she will tell me before I go to my house “you better save it for me” and I just feel controlled and like she is setting an unfair boundary bc I didn’t agree to that. What should I do? When I try and bring it up with her that I’m not comfortable with that it turns into a fight. Is this normal? How can I explain to her this makes me feel controlled. Thank you.. submitted by /u/Barbwire97 [link] [comments]
Just like the title says. We have been dating 8 months and neither of us is religious and we are both bisexual. We don’t live together yet and I always desire her and am ready and willing. I also never masturbate at her house or when we spend the night together. But if I’m spending the rare night at my house and we haven’t had sex in a day or two I might jerk off which I think is normal. But whenever I spend a night to myself she will ask if I jerked off and if I say yes she gets pretty upset. Now I have agreed not to watch porn bc it makes her feel she is not enough, but when we had that decision I said I’ll give up porn bc I can see how it is unhealthy but I reserve the right to take of myself if I feel the need or desire. But now she will tell me before I go to my house “you better save it for me” and I just feel controlled and like she is setting an unfair boundary bc I didn’t agree to that. What should I do? When I try and bring it up with her that I’m not comfortable with that it turns into a fight. Is this normal? How can I explain to her this makes me feel controlled. Thank you..
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