My girlfriend and I have been dating for a little bit and have also been sexually active, but I cannot make her finish for the life of me, and it really bothers me. She’s my first everything. While I’m sort of her first, she has done pretty much everything with her past relationship except for sex. I’m not sure if it’s me or what. When I pleasure her, I feel like I do a pretty good job, always taking my time with foreplay, kissing her all around. Maybe I should be teasing her before I start to go down on her? I’ve done some research for tips and what to do, read the book “She Comes First,” and just done a lot to try to improve my game. I stimulate her clit whether it’s licking or sucking on it while I’m penetrating her with my fingers. She likes it really rough, so I’m typically going pretty hard on her with my fingers, and that’s what she likes. She definitely enjoys it from the sounds she makes and her body actions and always tells me how amazing I am at it, but I never make her finish, so that’s why I feel like I’m never fulfilling her pleasure.
I have talked to her about it briefly, saying how I really want to be able to make her finish, and she always tells me not to worry about it and it’s probably her body, but she has had an orgasm from her previous boyfriend, probably from head. I think that’s the thing that bothers me, he’s doing something I can’t. She mentions how even with herself it takes a long time to finish she says about 15 minutes, and when she does have an orgasm, she never comes liquid, just the orgasm sensation. She also doesn’t masturbate a lot, maybe twice a month, maybe a bit more, and doesn’t make herself finish every time.
She loves when I finger her as well, just as much as my head, but I can’t go as long due to my fingers and arm getting extremely tired quickly due to the fast tempo of how she likes it. Maybe I can try new stuff with my fingers to get her across the finish line? When I give her oral, it probably lasts around 10-12 minutes, maybe a bit longer, usually stopping when it seems like she’s ready to move on either to sex or whatever. The last time I gave her head, she told me how amazing it was and how it was the best head I’ve ever given her and she ever received, but I don’t know why it’s not making her finish. I need tips please, advice, anything. I WANT TO MAKE MY PARTNER FINISH.
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r/sex My girlfriend and I have been dating for a little bit and have also been sexually active, but I cannot make her finish for the life of me, and it really bothers me. She’s my first everything. While I’m sort of her first, she has done pretty much everything with her past relationship except for sex. I’m not sure if it’s me or what. When I pleasure her, I feel like I do a pretty good job, always taking my time with foreplay, kissing her all around. Maybe I should be teasing her before I start to go down on her? I’ve done some research for tips and what to do, read the book “She Comes First,” and just done a lot to try to improve my game. I stimulate her clit whether it’s licking or sucking on it while I’m penetrating her with my fingers. She likes it really rough, so I’m typically going pretty hard on her with my fingers, and that’s what she likes. She definitely enjoys it from the sounds she makes and her body actions and always tells me how amazing I am at it, but I never make her finish, so that’s why I feel like I’m never fulfilling her pleasure. I have talked to her about it briefly, saying how I really want to be able to make her finish, and she always tells me not to worry about it and it’s probably her body, but she has had an orgasm from her previous boyfriend, probably from head. I think that’s the thing that bothers me, he’s doing something I can’t. She mentions how even with herself it takes a long time to finish she says about 15 minutes, and when she does have an orgasm, she never comes liquid, just the orgasm sensation. She also doesn’t masturbate a lot, maybe twice a month, maybe a bit more, and doesn’t make herself finish every time. She loves when I finger her as well, just as much as my head, but I can’t go as long due to my fingers and arm getting extremely tired quickly due to the fast tempo of how she likes it. Maybe I can try new stuff with my fingers to get her across the finish line? When I give her oral, it probably lasts around 10-12 minutes, maybe a bit longer, usually stopping when it seems like she’s ready to move on either to sex or whatever. The last time I gave her head, she told me how amazing it was and how it was the best head I’ve ever given her and she ever received, but I don’t know why it’s not making her finish. I need tips please, advice, anything. I WANT TO MAKE MY PARTNER FINISH. submitted by /u/sulibO [link] [comments]
My girlfriend and I have been dating for a little bit and have also been sexually active, but I cannot make her finish for the life of me, and it really bothers me. She’s my first everything. While I’m sort of her first, she has done pretty much everything with her past relationship except for sex. I’m not sure if it’s me or what. When I pleasure her, I feel like I do a pretty good job, always taking my time with foreplay, kissing her all around. Maybe I should be teasing her before I start to go down on her? I’ve done some research for tips and what to do, read the book “She Comes First,” and just done a lot to try to improve my game. I stimulate her clit whether it’s licking or sucking on it while I’m penetrating her with my fingers. She likes it really rough, so I’m typically going pretty hard on her with my fingers, and that’s what she likes. She definitely enjoys it from the sounds she makes and her body actions and always tells me how amazing I am at it, but I never make her finish, so that’s why I feel like I’m never fulfilling her pleasure.
I have talked to her about it briefly, saying how I really want to be able to make her finish, and she always tells me not to worry about it and it’s probably her body, but she has had an orgasm from her previous boyfriend, probably from head. I think that’s the thing that bothers me, he’s doing something I can’t. She mentions how even with herself it takes a long time to finish she says about 15 minutes, and when she does have an orgasm, she never comes liquid, just the orgasm sensation. She also doesn’t masturbate a lot, maybe twice a month, maybe a bit more, and doesn’t make herself finish every time.
She loves when I finger her as well, just as much as my head, but I can’t go as long due to my fingers and arm getting extremely tired quickly due to the fast tempo of how she likes it. Maybe I can try new stuff with my fingers to get her across the finish line? When I give her oral, it probably lasts around 10-12 minutes, maybe a bit longer, usually stopping when it seems like she’s ready to move on either to sex or whatever. The last time I gave her head, she told me how amazing it was and how it was the best head I’ve ever given her and she ever received, but I don’t know why it’s not making her finish. I need tips please, advice, anything. I WANT TO MAKE MY PARTNER FINISH.
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