How to Get Out of a Sexual Rut With My Partner? (F31/M33) /u/KhaosTheory23 Sex

I need some advice. My partner (M33) and I (F31) have been together for nearly three years. We’ve known each other since our teens and used to live in a shared house together, so we have a deep emotional connection. At the start of our relationship, things were exciting, and we were pretty adventurous, even exploring light exhibitionism (public play or at parties).

But as time went on, life got in the way. Between us, we have three kids from previous relationships, both of which were abusive, including sexually. We’re also both high-functioning autistic and ADHD, which adds extra layers to how we navigate our relationship.

After the initial honeymoon phase, our past traumas started showing up. He began struggling with performance issues, and I would panic when touched sexually. Over the years, there have only been a handful of times where we’ve tried to be intimate, but it always feels awkward or rushed. At this point, we’ve essentially become an asexual couple—not because we want to, but because we don’t know how to change.

We both miss that connection and want to rekindle the physical side of our relationship, but we’re unsure where to start. Has anyone else experienced something similar? How did you break out of the rut? Any tips for rebuilding sexual intimacy after trauma or long dry spells would be really appreciated.

Thanks in advance!

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​r/sex I need some advice. My partner (M33) and I (F31) have been together for nearly three years. We’ve known each other since our teens and used to live in a shared house together, so we have a deep emotional connection. At the start of our relationship, things were exciting, and we were pretty adventurous, even exploring light exhibitionism (public play or at parties). But as time went on, life got in the way. Between us, we have three kids from previous relationships, both of which were abusive, including sexually. We’re also both high-functioning autistic and ADHD, which adds extra layers to how we navigate our relationship. After the initial honeymoon phase, our past traumas started showing up. He began struggling with performance issues, and I would panic when touched sexually. Over the years, there have only been a handful of times where we’ve tried to be intimate, but it always feels awkward or rushed. At this point, we’ve essentially become an asexual couple—not because we want to, but because we don’t know how to change. We both miss that connection and want to rekindle the physical side of our relationship, but we’re unsure where to start. Has anyone else experienced something similar? How did you break out of the rut? Any tips for rebuilding sexual intimacy after trauma or long dry spells would be really appreciated. Thanks in advance! submitted by /u/KhaosTheory23 [link] [comments] 

I need some advice. My partner (M33) and I (F31) have been together for nearly three years. We’ve known each other since our teens and used to live in a shared house together, so we have a deep emotional connection. At the start of our relationship, things were exciting, and we were pretty adventurous, even exploring light exhibitionism (public play or at parties).

But as time went on, life got in the way. Between us, we have three kids from previous relationships, both of which were abusive, including sexually. We’re also both high-functioning autistic and ADHD, which adds extra layers to how we navigate our relationship.

After the initial honeymoon phase, our past traumas started showing up. He began struggling with performance issues, and I would panic when touched sexually. Over the years, there have only been a handful of times where we’ve tried to be intimate, but it always feels awkward or rushed. At this point, we’ve essentially become an asexual couple—not because we want to, but because we don’t know how to change.

We both miss that connection and want to rekindle the physical side of our relationship, but we’re unsure where to start. Has anyone else experienced something similar? How did you break out of the rut? Any tips for rebuilding sexual intimacy after trauma or long dry spells would be really appreciated.

Thanks in advance!

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