Don’t cum with husband. /u/No-Click-2636 Sex

I’m a (42) female. My husband (43) and I have been married for 16 years. I have never had an orgasm with him. Whether it’s during sex or not. Foreplay is very lazy for him. Like he’ll rub the slit of my vagina and try to rub my clit but he’s not even looking at me when he does. He doesn’t give me oral because he doesn’t like when I try to tell him what I like. He’ll lay on his back jack himself off then lazily try to finger me. Then when we do have sex he comes before me. It’s so frustrating. I have toys but I tend to get in my head and can’t make myself cum because he’ll be snoring so loud afterwards because he’s gotten his. What should I do? How can I get out of my head enough to get mine since he always gets his?

I’m a (42) female. My husband (43) and I have been married for 16 years. I have never had an orgasm with him. Whether it’s during sex or not. Foreplay is very lazy for him. Like he’ll rub the slit of my vagina and try to rub my clit but he’s not even looking at me when he does. He doesn’t give me oral because he doesn’t like when I try to tell him what I like. He’ll lay on his back jack himself off then lazily try to finger me. Then when we do have sex he comes before me. It’s so frustrating. I have toys but I tend to get in my head and can’t make myself cum because he’ll be snoring so loud afterwards because he’s gotten his. What should I do? How can I get out of my head enough to get mine since he always gets his?