Me and my boyfriend (both 40 something) have a very good sex life. His libido isn’t quite as high as mine, and while he does have a few likes that surprise me, he is one of the more vanilla guys I’ve been with. But again, no complaints, he gets me off waaaay more than anyone else I’ve been with and he is an amazing guy and our relationship is great. We’ve been together almost two years and he just went down on me for the first time recently. I’ve been giving him head from the very start, but I enjoy giving and I just assumed he didn’t like to give and I didn’t want it if he didn’t like doing it.
I wanted to ask about it, but in the beginning I feared if he said no I would take it personally, and then so much time had passed it felt weird to ask. He was quite drunk the night he finally did it, but he did it all on his own. The next time we had sex he didn’t do it, but the time after that when we had been drinking he went down on me again.
I do plan to talk to him about it, I just haven’t found the right time. But I’m wondering if anyone has any insight. My fear is that he doesn’t like it, and can only stand to do it when he’s drunk…but he waited so long to try it, it seems like if he didn’t like it, he just would have continued not ever doing it, or never do it again. So that makes me think maybe he’d been wanting to, but maybe lacks confidence in his skills, which does kind of go along with the fact that he’s not THE most experienced (and by that I just mean he hasn’t had dozens of dozens or more partners) or THE most experimental guy I’ve been with.
Any thoughts?
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r/sex Me and my boyfriend (both 40 something) have a very good sex life. His libido isn’t quite as high as mine, and while he does have a few likes that surprise me, he is one of the more vanilla guys I’ve been with. But again, no complaints, he gets me off waaaay more than anyone else I’ve been with and he is an amazing guy and our relationship is great. We’ve been together almost two years and he just went down on me for the first time recently. I’ve been giving him head from the very start, but I enjoy giving and I just assumed he didn’t like to give and I didn’t want it if he didn’t like doing it. I wanted to ask about it, but in the beginning I feared if he said no I would take it personally, and then so much time had passed it felt weird to ask. He was quite drunk the night he finally did it, but he did it all on his own. The next time we had sex he didn’t do it, but the time after that when we had been drinking he went down on me again. I do plan to talk to him about it, I just haven’t found the right time. But I’m wondering if anyone has any insight. My fear is that he doesn’t like it, and can only stand to do it when he’s drunk…but he waited so long to try it, it seems like if he didn’t like it, he just would have continued not ever doing it, or never do it again. So that makes me think maybe he’d been wanting to, but maybe lacks confidence in his skills, which does kind of go along with the fact that he’s not THE most experienced (and by that I just mean he hasn’t had dozens of dozens or more partners) or THE most experimental guy I’ve been with. Any thoughts? submitted by /u/Beautifulbeliever69 [link] [comments]
Me and my boyfriend (both 40 something) have a very good sex life. His libido isn’t quite as high as mine, and while he does have a few likes that surprise me, he is one of the more vanilla guys I’ve been with. But again, no complaints, he gets me off waaaay more than anyone else I’ve been with and he is an amazing guy and our relationship is great. We’ve been together almost two years and he just went down on me for the first time recently. I’ve been giving him head from the very start, but I enjoy giving and I just assumed he didn’t like to give and I didn’t want it if he didn’t like doing it.
I wanted to ask about it, but in the beginning I feared if he said no I would take it personally, and then so much time had passed it felt weird to ask. He was quite drunk the night he finally did it, but he did it all on his own. The next time we had sex he didn’t do it, but the time after that when we had been drinking he went down on me again.
I do plan to talk to him about it, I just haven’t found the right time. But I’m wondering if anyone has any insight. My fear is that he doesn’t like it, and can only stand to do it when he’s drunk…but he waited so long to try it, it seems like if he didn’t like it, he just would have continued not ever doing it, or never do it again. So that makes me think maybe he’d been wanting to, but maybe lacks confidence in his skills, which does kind of go along with the fact that he’s not THE most experienced (and by that I just mean he hasn’t had dozens of dozens or more partners) or THE most experimental guy I’ve been with.
Any thoughts?
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