Please help. Am I orgasming,climaxing or neither?? /u/MHarris_42 Sex

I’ve been having orgasm issues my entire sex life🤦🏽 I’m F(48). I know when I’m cumming from oral sex but not penetration 😣 I love men and prefer men but for yrs wondered if I was gay cuz I wasn’t getting anything from penetration. My partner and I have good sex. It feels good but nothing comes of it. When he pulls out tho my pussy be throbbing like crazy and feels so good. Shouldn’t I know/feel this throbbing when he’s still inside of me?? He’s advised me to PUSH the orgasm out during sex. I dnt want to sound stupid so I ask. Do y’all have any idea what that means?? Also before anyone advise toy, I’ve tried dildos but cnt get into them. I dnt have issues with clitoral stimulation. It’s the penetrative part that’s giving me issues. Please help!!!!

I’ve been having orgasm issues my entire sex life🤦🏽 I’m F(48). I know when I’m cumming from oral sex but not penetration 😣 I love men and prefer men but for yrs wondered if I was gay cuz I wasn’t getting anything from penetration. My partner and I have good sex. It feels good but nothing comes of it. When he pulls out tho my pussy be throbbing like crazy and feels so good. Shouldn’t I know/feel this throbbing when he’s still inside of me?? He’s advised me to PUSH the orgasm out during sex. I dnt want to sound stupid so I ask. Do y’all have any idea what that means?? Also before anyone advise toy, I’ve tried dildos but cnt get into them. I dnt have issues with clitoral stimulation. It’s the penetrative part that’s giving me issues. Please help!!!!