Im going to make this as short as possible but include that needed information.
When my husband and I got together, i was open about never wanting a closed relationship. He’d had this previously with his ex wife but it was very one sided and his ex wouldn’t allow him to venture, only her.
In our time together (7 years) I had gone out twice. Once with a couple and once when he was in our home with someone as well. I left them to do their thing and went to do mine. This was about 4 years ago. I’ve not gone out since.
He has many times. He likes receiving oral and I do not like giving it. He also likes anal penetration and I don’t like doing that. I encouraged him having fun and not limiting him. In the last 4 years, I’d spent about 22 of those mo ths pregnant (2 bathed babies and a miscarriage) so needless to say, our sex life definitely struggles some and I was also not in the position to be going out myself.
This past May, I told him I felt like venturing. I felt like escaping my life for a few hours and likely wouldn’t want to do that again for a long time. I am just the type to get it out of my system on a rare occasion. He did it any opportunity he was given.
All hell broke lose and it eventually ended in us closing the marriage. Me nor him venturing.
He has become very insecure, going through my phone twice in the last six months and us fighting on and off.
He says it’s because there is nothing he wouldn’t give me but because I had things I didn’t like to do, he basically deserved the right to because it was my suggestion.
Because our sex life is essentially scheduled and controlled by toddlers at home, that me showing any interest in going out at all is an insult to him.
I try. I literally can’t help not wanting to wait until 1am and being over tired by that point. Or trying to sneak away only for screaming toddlers to interrupt. I suggested items we could buy and try recently to spice it up. I try at home. But wanting to take up the open relationship for a few hours for once in 4 years, I didn’t feel like was that big of a deal.
And now he has had sex with countless of people, we have a closed marriage and I’m left feeling like we are no longer on equal pages in our sexual lives as a whole.
Am I wrong here?
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r/sex Im going to make this as short as possible but include that needed information. When my husband and I got together, i was open about never wanting a closed relationship. He’d had this previously with his ex wife but it was very one sided and his ex wouldn’t allow him to venture, only her. In our time together (7 years) I had gone out twice. Once with a couple and once when he was in our home with someone as well. I left them to do their thing and went to do mine. This was about 4 years ago. I’ve not gone out since. He has many times. He likes receiving oral and I do not like giving it. He also likes anal penetration and I don’t like doing that. I encouraged him having fun and not limiting him. In the last 4 years, I’d spent about 22 of those mo ths pregnant (2 bathed babies and a miscarriage) so needless to say, our sex life definitely struggles some and I was also not in the position to be going out myself. This past May, I told him I felt like venturing. I felt like escaping my life for a few hours and likely wouldn’t want to do that again for a long time. I am just the type to get it out of my system on a rare occasion. He did it any opportunity he was given. All hell broke lose and it eventually ended in us closing the marriage. Me nor him venturing. He has become very insecure, going through my phone twice in the last six months and us fighting on and off. He says it’s because there is nothing he wouldn’t give me but because I had things I didn’t like to do, he basically deserved the right to because it was my suggestion. Because our sex life is essentially scheduled and controlled by toddlers at home, that me showing any interest in going out at all is an insult to him. I try. I literally can’t help not wanting to wait until 1am and being over tired by that point. Or trying to sneak away only for screaming toddlers to interrupt. I suggested items we could buy and try recently to spice it up. I try at home. But wanting to take up the open relationship for a few hours for once in 4 years, I didn’t feel like was that big of a deal. And now he has had sex with countless of people, we have a closed marriage and I’m left feeling like we are no longer on equal pages in our sexual lives as a whole. Am I wrong here? submitted by /u/Noemad0613 [link] [comments]
Im going to make this as short as possible but include that needed information.
When my husband and I got together, i was open about never wanting a closed relationship. He’d had this previously with his ex wife but it was very one sided and his ex wouldn’t allow him to venture, only her.
In our time together (7 years) I had gone out twice. Once with a couple and once when he was in our home with someone as well. I left them to do their thing and went to do mine. This was about 4 years ago. I’ve not gone out since.
He has many times. He likes receiving oral and I do not like giving it. He also likes anal penetration and I don’t like doing that. I encouraged him having fun and not limiting him. In the last 4 years, I’d spent about 22 of those mo ths pregnant (2 bathed babies and a miscarriage) so needless to say, our sex life definitely struggles some and I was also not in the position to be going out myself.
This past May, I told him I felt like venturing. I felt like escaping my life for a few hours and likely wouldn’t want to do that again for a long time. I am just the type to get it out of my system on a rare occasion. He did it any opportunity he was given.
All hell broke lose and it eventually ended in us closing the marriage. Me nor him venturing.
He has become very insecure, going through my phone twice in the last six months and us fighting on and off.
He says it’s because there is nothing he wouldn’t give me but because I had things I didn’t like to do, he basically deserved the right to because it was my suggestion.
Because our sex life is essentially scheduled and controlled by toddlers at home, that me showing any interest in going out at all is an insult to him.
I try. I literally can’t help not wanting to wait until 1am and being over tired by that point. Or trying to sneak away only for screaming toddlers to interrupt. I suggested items we could buy and try recently to spice it up. I try at home. But wanting to take up the open relationship for a few hours for once in 4 years, I didn’t feel like was that big of a deal.
And now he has had sex with countless of people, we have a closed marriage and I’m left feeling like we are no longer on equal pages in our sexual lives as a whole.
Am I wrong here?
submitted by /u/Noemad0613
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