Boyfriend cums in 30-40 seconds unless he drinks /u/Miserable_Gold_6833 Sex

So I have been with my bf for 5 years, and he has always had an issue with ejaculating after the 3rd thrust, sometimes he doesn’t even get all the way in. He says “I’m no good in the mornings” well it’s the same at night unless he drinks. Some mornings he will cuddle me awake by spooning and cum all over in my butt cheeks dry thrusting between them. I hate it. He hasn’t done that for a while because I think he figured that out. Sometimes he’d do that and just get out of bed and carry on with his morning without a word. I feel like it’s so selfish.

He used to drink every day, the first year we were together- I thought it was some kind of dependency? If he drinks 3-4 beers, we can have sex for potentially 10 minutes? A normal amount of time. I hardly ever have an orgasm, like once every few months maybe.

My ex was extremely abusive. But sex was a 10/10, he ate me out 3 times a day like he was at an all you can eat buffet. It was amazing. I miss that part, nothing else- just someone who actually enjoys eating pussy and cared about my orgasms, or if I had one.

I have tried telling him gently i don’t care how fast he cums, but being eaten out is something I love. He doesnt like doing it. I have been with guys who like eating pussy and he’s not one of them, sign. I know I am good at oral sex, I enjoy it very much and will give him head just because, in the morning, in the car, before bed. I stopped doing it because he doesn’t deserve all these orgasms.

I have gotten upset and told him to get off me when he laughs while he’s cuming and is saying “noooo” as his cock throbs. Like that doesn’t feel good and he’s just trying not to hurt my feelings? Shouldn’t orgasms go both ways?

Has anyone ever had it change or found a way to make it work? Sex isn’t everything, I have learned that. I am not abused. We have two kids. We have a beautiful family, we are friends. Tortured by lack of orgasms yes.

So I have been with my bf for 5 years, and he has always had an issue with ejaculating after the 3rd thrust, sometimes he doesn’t even get all the way in. He says “I’m no good in the mornings” well it’s the same at night unless he drinks. Some mornings he will cuddle me awake by spooning and cum all over in my butt cheeks dry thrusting between them. I hate it. He hasn’t done that for a while because I think he figured that out. Sometimes he’d do that and just get out of bed and carry on with his morning without a word. I feel like it’s so selfish.

He used to drink every day, the first year we were together- I thought it was some kind of dependency? If he drinks 3-4 beers, we can have sex for potentially 10 minutes? A normal amount of time. I hardly ever have an orgasm, like once every few months maybe.

My ex was extremely abusive. But sex was a 10/10, he ate me out 3 times a day like he was at an all you can eat buffet. It was amazing. I miss that part, nothing else- just someone who actually enjoys eating pussy and cared about my orgasms, or if I had one.

I have tried telling him gently i don’t care how fast he cums, but being eaten out is something I love. He doesnt like doing it. I have been with guys who like eating pussy and he’s not one of them, sign. I know I am good at oral sex, I enjoy it very much and will give him head just because, in the morning, in the car, before bed. I stopped doing it because he doesn’t deserve all these orgasms.

I have gotten upset and told him to get off me when he laughs while he’s cuming and is saying “noooo” as his cock throbs. Like that doesn’t feel good and he’s just trying not to hurt my feelings? Shouldn’t orgasms go both ways?

Has anyone ever had it change or found a way to make it work? Sex isn’t everything, I have learned that. I am not abused. We have two kids. We have a beautiful family, we are friends. Tortured by lack of orgasms yes.