My boyfriend is too kinky for me and I feel bad /u/ThrowRA-21274 Sex

Hi everyone. Throwaway as my bf knows about my main account.

My boyfriend (20M) and I (21F) have been together for just over a year. We have just moved in together and everything is going well so far. However, he’s very adventurous when it comes to sex, and I don’t go nearly as far as him.

We have tried many different things in the past but a lot of it is just uncomfortable for me and too much effort for the same amount of pleasure in return. I’m more than satisfied with “normal” sex. I just love the connection that it gives me to him. There are some things that we’ve tried that I do like (light spanking for example) but there are MANY things that we’ve tried that I don’t like. Some things that we’ve tried that I don’t like are Rope play, sensory deprivation, femdom, and more. He’s told me that he likes these things but the most important thing is making me happy so he doesn’t mind if I don’t want to do them. His exact words were “even if you just wanted silent sex in doggy for the rest of your life I wouldn’t care” 😂

First of all, his response confirmed that I chose the right man for me. I’m glad that he cares about what I want and what I’m comfortable with. But I feel bad for him. I can’t even explain why I dont like the things we’ve tried, they generally just don’t appeal to me. I don’t want him to feel like his needs aren’t fulfilled, even if he says that he’s ok with it.

Does anyone have any advice? Maybe a compromise?

Hi everyone. Throwaway as my bf knows about my main account.

My boyfriend (20M) and I (21F) have been together for just over a year. We have just moved in together and everything is going well so far. However, he’s very adventurous when it comes to sex, and I don’t go nearly as far as him.

We have tried many different things in the past but a lot of it is just uncomfortable for me and too much effort for the same amount of pleasure in return. I’m more than satisfied with “normal” sex. I just love the connection that it gives me to him. There are some things that we’ve tried that I do like (light spanking for example) but there are MANY things that we’ve tried that I don’t like. Some things that we’ve tried that I don’t like are Rope play, sensory deprivation, femdom, and more. He’s told me that he likes these things but the most important thing is making me happy so he doesn’t mind if I don’t want to do them. His exact words were “even if you just wanted silent sex in doggy for the rest of your life I wouldn’t care” 😂

First of all, his response confirmed that I chose the right man for me. I’m glad that he cares about what I want and what I’m comfortable with. But I feel bad for him. I can’t even explain why I dont like the things we’ve tried, they generally just don’t appeal to me. I don’t want him to feel like his needs aren’t fulfilled, even if he says that he’s ok with it.

Does anyone have any advice? Maybe a compromise?