•I have a year with my boyfriend. It’s my first one and one we’ve been doing LDR (not living together, but we visit from time to time. Is not planned so it happens when possible. It can be for weeks or for days) •I have the copper IUD, which has changed my discharge to abundant one, and to smell it like metal/copper. I put it as a way to avoid infections and kept it there. That’s the protection I’m using. He finishes inside me. •I don’t have sexual practical experience with sex. I discoverd Im demisexual recently so I’m really attracted towards him( he is the first ever I feel that). I enjoy so much giving him pleasure, doing things so he orgasms and to make him aroused. And at the same time I feel he doesn’t reciprocates. At the beginning he mentioned oral sex being important and making a woman finish. He just did that the first months and later completely stop going down on me. Maybe is my smell/flavor, maybe is him being depressed, maybe he doesn’t like me enough. It breaks my heart not knowing even I have tried asking him and him not answering anything back. I know he has slept and has experience, but at the same time I feel he is meh in bed. I know my body and give myself orgasms with toys and alone. With him I only had one orgasm that made me shake everything when he did orally and I have mini ones sometimes when we have sex. I have mentioned using toys, or me wanting to finish but he says he is tired, that later will happen or excuses. The times I really want to finish by him(by his hands/mouth) it doesn’t happen. I end up being upset, he says then he will play with me but I feel it forced and I don’t want to even try it. Yesterday, he finally mentioned that he could use a toy and play with me. I felt excited but at the same time sad. Shy and not even happy for the possibility. I was tired and just wanted to sleep because I ate a lot. In the talk, we started talking about me wanting to have orgasms with him. I mentioned again that maybe my flavor was bad. He said maybe I could take out the IUD. But I said that would need me to use another way of birth control. Hormones are not an option as I’ve dealt with anxiety and depression before. I can’t take them as I know they will mess up my moods and emotions. He doesn’t want to use a condom. And doing it without anything will for sure make me not enjoy sex at all and if I get pregnant I will 100% stop it. I have 3 scenarios and in all 3 I’m screwed. (Hormonal birth control, no birth control, he is not willing to use a condom) Also orgasms are my last concern on this possibilities, but I’m starting to feel sexually unfulfilled and sexually frustrated. I don’t think there is another protection that can be used, right? Like a spermicide for example? Pleasurable sexuality is one of my needs and something I want from a romantic relationship. If I don’t get it with him, how can I approach things? Is not enough for me just having orgasms with toys and alone. How one ends a relationship for not being sexually fulfilled?
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r/sex •I have a year with my boyfriend. It’s my first one and one we’ve been doing LDR (not living together, but we visit from time to time. Is not planned so it happens when possible. It can be for weeks or for days) •I have the copper IUD, which has changed my discharge to abundant one, and to smell it like metal/copper. I put it as a way to avoid infections and kept it there. That’s the protection I’m using. He finishes inside me. •I don’t have sexual practical experience with sex. I discoverd Im demisexual recently so I’m really attracted towards him( he is the first ever I feel that). I enjoy so much giving him pleasure, doing things so he orgasms and to make him aroused. And at the same time I feel he doesn’t reciprocates. At the beginning he mentioned oral sex being important and making a woman finish. He just did that the first months and later completely stop going down on me. Maybe is my smell/flavor, maybe is him being depressed, maybe he doesn’t like me enough. It breaks my heart not knowing even I have tried asking him and him not answering anything back. I know he has slept and has experience, but at the same time I feel he is meh in bed. I know my body and give myself orgasms with toys and alone. With him I only had one orgasm that made me shake everything when he did orally and I have mini ones sometimes when we have sex. I have mentioned using toys, or me wanting to finish but he says he is tired, that later will happen or excuses. The times I really want to finish by him(by his hands/mouth) it doesn’t happen. I end up being upset, he says then he will play with me but I feel it forced and I don’t want to even try it. Yesterday, he finally mentioned that he could use a toy and play with me. I felt excited but at the same time sad. Shy and not even happy for the possibility. I was tired and just wanted to sleep because I ate a lot. In the talk, we started talking about me wanting to have orgasms with him. I mentioned again that maybe my flavor was bad. He said maybe I could take out the IUD. But I said that would need me to use another way of birth control. Hormones are not an option as I’ve dealt with anxiety and depression before. I can’t take them as I know they will mess up my moods and emotions. He doesn’t want to use a condom. And doing it without anything will for sure make me not enjoy sex at all and if I get pregnant I will 100% stop it. I have 3 scenarios and in all 3 I’m screwed. (Hormonal birth control, no birth control, he is not willing to use a condom) Also orgasms are my last concern on this possibilities, but I’m starting to feel sexually unfulfilled and sexually frustrated. I don’t think there is another protection that can be used, right? Like a spermicide for example? Pleasurable sexuality is one of my needs and something I want from a romantic relationship. If I don’t get it with him, how can I approach things? Is not enough for me just having orgasms with toys and alone. How one ends a relationship for not being sexually fulfilled? submitted by /u/globalintelligent [link] [comments]
•I have a year with my boyfriend. It’s my first one and one we’ve been doing LDR (not living together, but we visit from time to time. Is not planned so it happens when possible. It can be for weeks or for days) •I have the copper IUD, which has changed my discharge to abundant one, and to smell it like metal/copper. I put it as a way to avoid infections and kept it there. That’s the protection I’m using. He finishes inside me. •I don’t have sexual practical experience with sex. I discoverd Im demisexual recently so I’m really attracted towards him( he is the first ever I feel that). I enjoy so much giving him pleasure, doing things so he orgasms and to make him aroused. And at the same time I feel he doesn’t reciprocates. At the beginning he mentioned oral sex being important and making a woman finish. He just did that the first months and later completely stop going down on me. Maybe is my smell/flavor, maybe is him being depressed, maybe he doesn’t like me enough. It breaks my heart not knowing even I have tried asking him and him not answering anything back. I know he has slept and has experience, but at the same time I feel he is meh in bed. I know my body and give myself orgasms with toys and alone. With him I only had one orgasm that made me shake everything when he did orally and I have mini ones sometimes when we have sex. I have mentioned using toys, or me wanting to finish but he says he is tired, that later will happen or excuses. The times I really want to finish by him(by his hands/mouth) it doesn’t happen. I end up being upset, he says then he will play with me but I feel it forced and I don’t want to even try it. Yesterday, he finally mentioned that he could use a toy and play with me. I felt excited but at the same time sad. Shy and not even happy for the possibility. I was tired and just wanted to sleep because I ate a lot. In the talk, we started talking about me wanting to have orgasms with him. I mentioned again that maybe my flavor was bad. He said maybe I could take out the IUD. But I said that would need me to use another way of birth control. Hormones are not an option as I’ve dealt with anxiety and depression before. I can’t take them as I know they will mess up my moods and emotions. He doesn’t want to use a condom. And doing it without anything will for sure make me not enjoy sex at all and if I get pregnant I will 100% stop it. I have 3 scenarios and in all 3 I’m screwed. (Hormonal birth control, no birth control, he is not willing to use a condom) Also orgasms are my last concern on this possibilities, but I’m starting to feel sexually unfulfilled and sexually frustrated. I don’t think there is another protection that can be used, right? Like a spermicide for example? Pleasurable sexuality is one of my needs and something I want from a romantic relationship. If I don’t get it with him, how can I approach things? Is not enough for me just having orgasms with toys and alone. How one ends a relationship for not being sexually fulfilled?
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