How do I get more invested into getting freaky with my partner? /u/Throwaway-7781 Sex

Throwaway because this is kind of embarrassing and I don’t want it on my main. Also I’m on mobile so sorry about any awkward spelling or formatting, though it probably wouldn’t be any better if I was on desktop lol

I [19NB] and my partner [19M] have been in a relationship for four years now. Our relationship has been great and our communication fairly decent all things considered, but there’s just been one glaring problem that I have no idea how to solve. Our sex life is rather dry, which I am fully aware is entirely my fault.

For as long as I can remember, I’ve identified as asexual. Used to (before my relationship with my partner) I believed I was a sex-repulsed asexual since porn in general disgusted me (still does), though after starting the relationship with my partner and being (consensually) convinced me to masturbate for the first time. It wasn’t really amazing for me (more neutral than anything else) but it made my partner happy and that’s all I really needed. I began identifying as demisexual over the course of our relationship because I realized I didn’t dislike having sex with him, and actually found it majorly enjoyable.

Over time, though, my partner and I have had the realization that his libido is SIGNIFICANTLY higher than mine. While he feels like he could go every day, I’m not feeling it like 75% of the time. While my partner has majorly told me before that it’s not an issue, I can tell that he gets frustrated sometimes which I do feel bad about.

I was wondering if there was any way I could possibly raise my libido or something similar? I love my partner and like I said before, I don’t dislike having sex with / getting generally intimate with my partner, I just find that I almost never seek it out and I feel bad because I don’t want him to feel unwanted. I suspect some of my issues in being indifferent to sex in general come from the fact that I am a victim of CSA, but I can’t be entirely sure. Any advice absolutely helps.

TL;DR! I have a very low sex drive in contrast to my partner’s very high one and am wondering if there is any way to raise mine.

Throwaway because this is kind of embarrassing and I don’t want it on my main. Also I’m on mobile so sorry about any awkward spelling or formatting, though it probably wouldn’t be any better if I was on desktop lol

I [19NB] and my partner [19M] have been in a relationship for four years now. Our relationship has been great and our communication fairly decent all things considered, but there’s just been one glaring problem that I have no idea how to solve. Our sex life is rather dry, which I am fully aware is entirely my fault.

For as long as I can remember, I’ve identified as asexual. Used to (before my relationship with my partner) I believed I was a sex-repulsed asexual since porn in general disgusted me (still does), though after starting the relationship with my partner and being (consensually) convinced me to masturbate for the first time. It wasn’t really amazing for me (more neutral than anything else) but it made my partner happy and that’s all I really needed. I began identifying as demisexual over the course of our relationship because I realized I didn’t dislike having sex with him, and actually found it majorly enjoyable.

Over time, though, my partner and I have had the realization that his libido is SIGNIFICANTLY higher than mine. While he feels like he could go every day, I’m not feeling it like 75% of the time. While my partner has majorly told me before that it’s not an issue, I can tell that he gets frustrated sometimes which I do feel bad about.

I was wondering if there was any way I could possibly raise my libido or something similar? I love my partner and like I said before, I don’t dislike having sex with / getting generally intimate with my partner, I just find that I almost never seek it out and I feel bad because I don’t want him to feel unwanted. I suspect some of my issues in being indifferent to sex in general come from the fact that I am a victim of CSA, but I can’t be entirely sure. Any advice absolutely helps.

TL;DR! I have a very low sex drive in contrast to my partner’s very high one and am wondering if there is any way to raise mine.