So I (33M) have been dating my girlfriend for about 5 months now, and while I really love being intimate with her, I can’t seem to finish. The sex feels really good and I get close to finishing but I seem to be unable to get over that final bit to actually reach orgasm. She also feels bad that I’m able to give her multiple orgasms but she can’t give me one. Even though I’m happier that its this way round and not the other, we do see a future with each other and I want to be able to finish when I have sex with her.
Past history: I’m a bit of a late bloomer with very little sexual experience prior to my current girlfriend(she’s my third sexual relationship). First started masturbating at age 21. Age 21-30: I developed the bad habit of masturbating with a firm grip to porn(would only watch it for 15 minutes for the visual and auditory stimulation so I could actually finish). Never watched porn outside of this window, porn along with masturbation was a means to an end and my sex drive felt like an inconvenience. I just wanted the dopamine rush and porn let me have that in as little time as possible. Didn’t really feel good masturbating with a ‘death grip’ but I didn’t care because I got the dopamine rush after orgasm.
Age 30-present: got a fleshlight and learnt to orgasm without visual and auditory stimulation. Was much harder at first but I was able to achieve orgasm since the flashlight felt better. I still need about 40 minutes to reach orgasm, but I have to increase the pace of my strokes to actually reach orgasm-faster than I can muster during sex. If I slow down even 40 minutes in, I am unable to finish.
Other things to note: I have severe ADHD I take anti anxiety, depression and ADHD meds(Luvox, Wellbutrin and adderall) I don’t drink or smoke I’m physcially active-I bike, hike and used to do martial arts in grad school. I need sildenafil (viagra) about 50% of the time while having sex. Otherwise it’s hard for me to feel aroused enough to get an erection.
My girlfriend (29F) and I are very serious (even though it’s only been 5 months-I guess when you know you know) and both of us want kids. She feels bad that I’m able to give her multiple orgasms during sex but she can’t give me one, and I’m afraid I’ll lose her if I don’t fix this.
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r/sex So I (33M) have been dating my girlfriend for about 5 months now, and while I really love being intimate with her, I can’t seem to finish. The sex feels really good and I get close to finishing but I seem to be unable to get over that final bit to actually reach orgasm. She also feels bad that I’m able to give her multiple orgasms but she can’t give me one. Even though I’m happier that its this way round and not the other, we do see a future with each other and I want to be able to finish when I have sex with her. Past history: I’m a bit of a late bloomer with very little sexual experience prior to my current girlfriend(she’s my third sexual relationship). First started masturbating at age 21. Age 21-30: I developed the bad habit of masturbating with a firm grip to porn(would only watch it for 15 minutes for the visual and auditory stimulation so I could actually finish). Never watched porn outside of this window, porn along with masturbation was a means to an end and my sex drive felt like an inconvenience. I just wanted the dopamine rush and porn let me have that in as little time as possible. Didn’t really feel good masturbating with a ‘death grip’ but I didn’t care because I got the dopamine rush after orgasm. Age 30-present: got a fleshlight and learnt to orgasm without visual and auditory stimulation. Was much harder at first but I was able to achieve orgasm since the flashlight felt better. I still need about 40 minutes to reach orgasm, but I have to increase the pace of my strokes to actually reach orgasm-faster than I can muster during sex. If I slow down even 40 minutes in, I am unable to finish. Other things to note: I have severe ADHD I take anti anxiety, depression and ADHD meds(Luvox, Wellbutrin and adderall) I don’t drink or smoke I’m physcially active-I bike, hike and used to do martial arts in grad school. I need sildenafil (viagra) about 50% of the time while having sex. Otherwise it’s hard for me to feel aroused enough to get an erection. My girlfriend (29F) and I are very serious (even though it’s only been 5 months-I guess when you know you know) and both of us want kids. She feels bad that I’m able to give her multiple orgasms during sex but she can’t give me one, and I’m afraid I’ll lose her if I don’t fix this. submitted by /u/No_Seaworthiness2327 [link] [comments]
So I (33M) have been dating my girlfriend for about 5 months now, and while I really love being intimate with her, I can’t seem to finish. The sex feels really good and I get close to finishing but I seem to be unable to get over that final bit to actually reach orgasm. She also feels bad that I’m able to give her multiple orgasms but she can’t give me one. Even though I’m happier that its this way round and not the other, we do see a future with each other and I want to be able to finish when I have sex with her.
Past history: I’m a bit of a late bloomer with very little sexual experience prior to my current girlfriend(she’s my third sexual relationship). First started masturbating at age 21. Age 21-30: I developed the bad habit of masturbating with a firm grip to porn(would only watch it for 15 minutes for the visual and auditory stimulation so I could actually finish). Never watched porn outside of this window, porn along with masturbation was a means to an end and my sex drive felt like an inconvenience. I just wanted the dopamine rush and porn let me have that in as little time as possible. Didn’t really feel good masturbating with a ‘death grip’ but I didn’t care because I got the dopamine rush after orgasm.
Age 30-present: got a fleshlight and learnt to orgasm without visual and auditory stimulation. Was much harder at first but I was able to achieve orgasm since the flashlight felt better. I still need about 40 minutes to reach orgasm, but I have to increase the pace of my strokes to actually reach orgasm-faster than I can muster during sex. If I slow down even 40 minutes in, I am unable to finish.
Other things to note: I have severe ADHD I take anti anxiety, depression and ADHD meds(Luvox, Wellbutrin and adderall) I don’t drink or smoke I’m physcially active-I bike, hike and used to do martial arts in grad school. I need sildenafil (viagra) about 50% of the time while having sex. Otherwise it’s hard for me to feel aroused enough to get an erection.
My girlfriend (29F) and I are very serious (even though it’s only been 5 months-I guess when you know you know) and both of us want kids. She feels bad that I’m able to give her multiple orgasms during sex but she can’t give me one, and I’m afraid I’ll lose her if I don’t fix this.
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