In my past relationships, I’ve engaged in consensual rough sex as the dominant partner, including activities like slapping, rope play, and humiliation. I really enjoy doing.
My current partner has told me she enjoys when I degrade and humiliate her during sex but knowing that she has been in an abusive relationship before where she experienced physical and verbal abuse has blocked me from treating her like this during sex. It is the first time I am in love with someone and our relationship is ideal overall. Sex is the best we have ever had but since learning about her past trauma I can only treat her in a very gentle and caring way, especially during sex.
How do I get it out of my head and engage in rough sex that we both enjoy? Am I risking triggering her past trauma? Do I make her re-live her trauma or is she asking me to treat her like this because she hasn’t gotten over it? As you can probably tell I have no clue and I need some guidance.
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r/sex In my past relationships, I’ve engaged in consensual rough sex as the dominant partner, including activities like slapping, rope play, and humiliation. I really enjoy doing. My current partner has told me she enjoys when I degrade and humiliate her during sex but knowing that she has been in an abusive relationship before where she experienced physical and verbal abuse has blocked me from treating her like this during sex. It is the first time I am in love with someone and our relationship is ideal overall. Sex is the best we have ever had but since learning about her past trauma I can only treat her in a very gentle and caring way, especially during sex. How do I get it out of my head and engage in rough sex that we both enjoy? Am I risking triggering her past trauma? Do I make her re-live her trauma or is she asking me to treat her like this because she hasn’t gotten over it? As you can probably tell I have no clue and I need some guidance. submitted by /u/johnakostr [link] [comments]
In my past relationships, I’ve engaged in consensual rough sex as the dominant partner, including activities like slapping, rope play, and humiliation. I really enjoy doing.
My current partner has told me she enjoys when I degrade and humiliate her during sex but knowing that she has been in an abusive relationship before where she experienced physical and verbal abuse has blocked me from treating her like this during sex. It is the first time I am in love with someone and our relationship is ideal overall. Sex is the best we have ever had but since learning about her past trauma I can only treat her in a very gentle and caring way, especially during sex.
How do I get it out of my head and engage in rough sex that we both enjoy? Am I risking triggering her past trauma? Do I make her re-live her trauma or is she asking me to treat her like this because she hasn’t gotten over it? As you can probably tell I have no clue and I need some guidance.
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