How to initiate a MFM threesome for all parts to be confortable? /u/BawBowTeuw Sex

In a previous relationship, I (M29) had the chance to participate in several MFM threesomes with the same two partners. Male (M30) was a really close friend and my GF (F25) at that time. A lot of healthy communication (and sexting) was involved before/during/after the events. Test were done. Sex was unprotected for the joy of everyone 🤤

We encountered secretly on 7 occasions (average of 2-3 rounds per session) on the course of 1 year, so something like 14-18 intercourses together in one year (+other non sexual encounters). First experience was a bit awkward at the very beginning but things went wild very fast. The other times were better and we were all of us quite conforable with each others. All of us appreciated the experience but looking back at it, I realise I was mostly the initiator/motor as the common denominator. Both of them were a bit shy at the beginnings of each session and I feel I was also leading the dynamic during intercourse, helping them get past the awkwardness first minutes, leading the position change and so on (my friend is on the soft/submissive spectra, and my gf was super submissive so mostly loving being the center of desir and interest). I wonder how I could have changed the dynamic to let them get more confortable together and express themselves? Would have it been better to give them space to discover each other before jumping in the 3some directly? (I specifically asked but they were requesting me to join for the fun as no one was left behind 😅)?

People who had similar experience, how did you manage the dynamic for everybody to be fully confortable with each other?

Overall experience was very nice. I hope to be able to reiterate this with the same friend this year (hoping we could find a girl in for that) but would like the dynamic to be better balanced. Thanks for your feedback. 😉

In a previous relationship, I (M29) had the chance to participate in several MFM threesomes with the same two partners. Male (M30) was a really close friend and my GF (F25) at that time. A lot of healthy communication (and sexting) was involved before/during/after the events. Test were done. Sex was unprotected for the joy of everyone 🤤

We encountered secretly on 7 occasions (average of 2-3 rounds per session) on the course of 1 year, so something like 14-18 intercourses together in one year (+other non sexual encounters). First experience was a bit awkward at the very beginning but things went wild very fast. The other times were better and we were all of us quite conforable with each others. All of us appreciated the experience but looking back at it, I realise I was mostly the initiator/motor as the common denominator. Both of them were a bit shy at the beginnings of each session and I feel I was also leading the dynamic during intercourse, helping them get past the awkwardness first minutes, leading the position change and so on (my friend is on the soft/submissive spectra, and my gf was super submissive so mostly loving being the center of desir and interest). I wonder how I could have changed the dynamic to let them get more confortable together and express themselves? Would have it been better to give them space to discover each other before jumping in the 3some directly? (I specifically asked but they were requesting me to join for the fun as no one was left behind 😅)?

People who had similar experience, how did you manage the dynamic for everybody to be fully confortable with each other?

Overall experience was very nice. I hope to be able to reiterate this with the same friend this year (hoping we could find a girl in for that) but would like the dynamic to be better balanced. Thanks for your feedback. 😉