Hi, I wanted to create a new post to see if there is anything I can do to fix my issue.
To get into it, I get a tear going from my fourchette to my perineum which causes me so much pain to do daily things. When I get this problem I can’t sit properly or go to the toilet without it causing me more pain and it just makes me cry every single time. This tear is caused from anything being inserted into my vagina which is bigger than the average sized tampon, it makes the tear reopen, bleed and sting extremely badly. To describe it in more detail without a picture, it’s usually quite red and raw most of the time and also feels unusually smooth near the opening which wasn’t apparent before, the area around the tear is also quite swollen and purple. I also get some pain in all sides of my stomach, around my waist area and pain in my womb which I don’t know if are related.
For more context, I am 18 and I have been having these problems for around 8-10 months. It has only happened with my current boyfriend, and we have been together for almost 2 years now, (and sexually active for the whole time), however it had only started half way through our relationship. Every time we try anything, it causes me a lot of pain and we have to stop everything, it will instantly break my healed tear bleed and will make my labias swell up and certainly the opening swell too, which hurts and is really scary sometimes when everything is doubled in size. Sometimes I just put up with the pain so I can have sex, because I really miss it and it kills me that we can’t without it hurting me, which obviously really sucks because I want to actually enjoy having sex. But we went from having sex multiple times a week to basically once a month and it not being enjoyable for either of us because we have to stop and I just end up crying.
I have been to many doctors appointments all saying it “looks almost normal just a bit red” but that isn’t how it is, my local doctor told me to stretch myself everyday and gave me steroid cream and lube. Also been to a gynaecologist which just said that I was functioning properly, all they did was told me to use more lube and gave me a Femmax Vaginal Dilator, which both places advice hasn’t helped.
I have been tested for many infections (yeast, urine, STIs) multiple times but they all come back negative.
I went to the doctors recently and asked them for any more testing that they could do, so I am getting an internal ultrasound, which honestly I don’t think that its going to help.
On my last post I made about this 4 months ago, many people told me to go to many specialists, but they all cost a lot of money or haven’t got any near me so I’d have to travel for 3 hours+ to find somewhere.
Was asked a few questions on my last post so I’ll just answer them in the post this time:
I have noticed no difference in pain and tearing if I am sufficiently aroused or not, and I have noticed that after I finish I can get more pain.
When I have left time for it to heal, it will still come back if anything is inserted in it.
I am on Levest, this is a combined birth control pill, and I take this everyday with a break after 4 months, which my doctors have said is fine.
This problem is affecting me mentally as I feel so terrible about it all the time, it has effected me so badly that my doctor has referred me to see a CBT specialist.
I am young and having sex is what people do so not being able to is horrible and I think eventually it’s going to ruin my relationship.
My sex drive towards my bf has decreased to almost nothing, I barely want to have sex because I know it’ll hurt extremely badly and just make us both feel bad. And I don’t know if this is related but I don’t want to be kissed much at all anymore, I think this may be because I don’t have much of a drive.
Sorry for it being so long.
Does anyone know of any solutions, or has experienced anything similar?
I’d really appreciate any help I can get <3.
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r/sex Hi, I wanted to create a new post to see if there is anything I can do to fix my issue. To get into it, I get a tear going from my fourchette to my perineum which causes me so much pain to do daily things. When I get this problem I can’t sit properly or go to the toilet without it causing me more pain and it just makes me cry every single time. This tear is caused from anything being inserted into my vagina which is bigger than the average sized tampon, it makes the tear reopen, bleed and sting extremely badly. To describe it in more detail without a picture, it’s usually quite red and raw most of the time and also feels unusually smooth near the opening which wasn’t apparent before, the area around the tear is also quite swollen and purple. I also get some pain in all sides of my stomach, around my waist area and pain in my womb which I don’t know if are related. For more context, I am 18 and I have been having these problems for around 8-10 months. It has only happened with my current boyfriend, and we have been together for almost 2 years now, (and sexually active for the whole time), however it had only started half way through our relationship. Every time we try anything, it causes me a lot of pain and we have to stop everything, it will instantly break my healed tear bleed and will make my labias swell up and certainly the opening swell too, which hurts and is really scary sometimes when everything is doubled in size. Sometimes I just put up with the pain so I can have sex, because I really miss it and it kills me that we can’t without it hurting me, which obviously really sucks because I want to actually enjoy having sex. But we went from having sex multiple times a week to basically once a month and it not being enjoyable for either of us because we have to stop and I just end up crying. I have been to many doctors appointments all saying it “looks almost normal just a bit red” but that isn’t how it is, my local doctor told me to stretch myself everyday and gave me steroid cream and lube. Also been to a gynaecologist which just said that I was functioning properly, all they did was told me to use more lube and gave me a Femmax Vaginal Dilator, which both places advice hasn’t helped. I have been tested for many infections (yeast, urine, STIs) multiple times but they all come back negative. I went to the doctors recently and asked them for any more testing that they could do, so I am getting an internal ultrasound, which honestly I don’t think that its going to help. On my last post I made about this 4 months ago, many people told me to go to many specialists, but they all cost a lot of money or haven’t got any near me so I’d have to travel for 3 hours+ to find somewhere. Was asked a few questions on my last post so I’ll just answer them in the post this time: I have noticed no difference in pain and tearing if I am sufficiently aroused or not, and I have noticed that after I finish I can get more pain. When I have left time for it to heal, it will still come back if anything is inserted in it. I am on Levest, this is a combined birth control pill, and I take this everyday with a break after 4 months, which my doctors have said is fine. This problem is affecting me mentally as I feel so terrible about it all the time, it has effected me so badly that my doctor has referred me to see a CBT specialist. I am young and having sex is what people do so not being able to is horrible and I think eventually it’s going to ruin my relationship. My sex drive towards my bf has decreased to almost nothing, I barely want to have sex because I know it’ll hurt extremely badly and just make us both feel bad. And I don’t know if this is related but I don’t want to be kissed much at all anymore, I think this may be because I don’t have much of a drive. Sorry for it being so long. Does anyone know of any solutions, or has experienced anything similar? I’d really appreciate any help I can get <3. submitted by /u/acooke170 [link] [comments]
Hi, I wanted to create a new post to see if there is anything I can do to fix my issue.
To get into it, I get a tear going from my fourchette to my perineum which causes me so much pain to do daily things. When I get this problem I can’t sit properly or go to the toilet without it causing me more pain and it just makes me cry every single time. This tear is caused from anything being inserted into my vagina which is bigger than the average sized tampon, it makes the tear reopen, bleed and sting extremely badly. To describe it in more detail without a picture, it’s usually quite red and raw most of the time and also feels unusually smooth near the opening which wasn’t apparent before, the area around the tear is also quite swollen and purple. I also get some pain in all sides of my stomach, around my waist area and pain in my womb which I don’t know if are related.
For more context, I am 18 and I have been having these problems for around 8-10 months. It has only happened with my current boyfriend, and we have been together for almost 2 years now, (and sexually active for the whole time), however it had only started half way through our relationship. Every time we try anything, it causes me a lot of pain and we have to stop everything, it will instantly break my healed tear bleed and will make my labias swell up and certainly the opening swell too, which hurts and is really scary sometimes when everything is doubled in size. Sometimes I just put up with the pain so I can have sex, because I really miss it and it kills me that we can’t without it hurting me, which obviously really sucks because I want to actually enjoy having sex. But we went from having sex multiple times a week to basically once a month and it not being enjoyable for either of us because we have to stop and I just end up crying.
I have been to many doctors appointments all saying it “looks almost normal just a bit red” but that isn’t how it is, my local doctor told me to stretch myself everyday and gave me steroid cream and lube. Also been to a gynaecologist which just said that I was functioning properly, all they did was told me to use more lube and gave me a Femmax Vaginal Dilator, which both places advice hasn’t helped.
I have been tested for many infections (yeast, urine, STIs) multiple times but they all come back negative.
I went to the doctors recently and asked them for any more testing that they could do, so I am getting an internal ultrasound, which honestly I don’t think that its going to help.
On my last post I made about this 4 months ago, many people told me to go to many specialists, but they all cost a lot of money or haven’t got any near me so I’d have to travel for 3 hours+ to find somewhere.
Was asked a few questions on my last post so I’ll just answer them in the post this time:
I have noticed no difference in pain and tearing if I am sufficiently aroused or not, and I have noticed that after I finish I can get more pain.
When I have left time for it to heal, it will still come back if anything is inserted in it.
I am on Levest, this is a combined birth control pill, and I take this everyday with a break after 4 months, which my doctors have said is fine.
This problem is affecting me mentally as I feel so terrible about it all the time, it has effected me so badly that my doctor has referred me to see a CBT specialist.
I am young and having sex is what people do so not being able to is horrible and I think eventually it’s going to ruin my relationship.
My sex drive towards my bf has decreased to almost nothing, I barely want to have sex because I know it’ll hurt extremely badly and just make us both feel bad. And I don’t know if this is related but I don’t want to be kissed much at all anymore, I think this may be because I don’t have much of a drive.
Sorry for it being so long.
Does anyone know of any solutions, or has experienced anything similar?
I’d really appreciate any help I can get <3.
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