43y Boyfriend + Orgasms /u/Ok-Satisfaction-5725 Sex

I’ve been seeing a great guy for the last 5 months. Our sex life is amazing … except for the fact that he struggles to finish inside me. He’s 43, has a high stress job, but is in good physical shape. No medical issues. He lasts a very long time (partly because he always wants to make sure I O first), but even when I get off faster, he still says he hits that point where it becomes harder for him to climax. He swears it has nothing to do with me, and he’s constantly telling me how sexy I am, how I make him hornier than anyone else (and he is ALWAYS horny around me), and he loves how sensual we are together. I believe I’m objectively attractive (mid-30s, 5’3”, long blonde hair, size 2 with feminine curves, tasteful breast implants, pretty face, confident, playful). He tells me all the time that I’m the “hottest woman he’s ever been with.”

I’d say almost half the time, he either doesn’t finish at all or he has to jerk himself off (hard) and then come into my mouth.

He also claims that he’s still satisfied even when he doesn’t come at all. Is that true or is he just saying that so I don’t feel bad?? He says he enjoys making me O and he enjoys the process. Our sessions tend to go 20-30 minutes most of the time.

I wondered if maybe he has a porn addiction or something but as much as he works and as much time as he spends with me, I don’t think that’s the case. He says it’s just his age and stress levels and has nothing to do with me.

I’m just curious why he CAN come but just not in me? And why only through masturbation or oral? Any insight would be appreciated and any advice as to how I can support him with this would also be appreciated.

I’ve tried talking to him about this several times (from a loving/supportive standpoint), but I feel like that’s just making it worse/putting more pressure on him and he just tells me what I want to hear.

I’ve been seeing a great guy for the last 5 months. Our sex life is amazing … except for the fact that he struggles to finish inside me. He’s 43, has a high stress job, but is in good physical shape. No medical issues. He lasts a very long time (partly because he always wants to make sure I O first), but even when I get off faster, he still says he hits that point where it becomes harder for him to climax. He swears it has nothing to do with me, and he’s constantly telling me how sexy I am, how I make him hornier than anyone else (and he is ALWAYS horny around me), and he loves how sensual we are together. I believe I’m objectively attractive (mid-30s, 5’3”, long blonde hair, size 2 with feminine curves, tasteful breast implants, pretty face, confident, playful). He tells me all the time that I’m the “hottest woman he’s ever been with.”

I’d say almost half the time, he either doesn’t finish at all or he has to jerk himself off (hard) and then come into my mouth.

He also claims that he’s still satisfied even when he doesn’t come at all. Is that true or is he just saying that so I don’t feel bad?? He says he enjoys making me O and he enjoys the process. Our sessions tend to go 20-30 minutes most of the time.

I wondered if maybe he has a porn addiction or something but as much as he works and as much time as he spends with me, I don’t think that’s the case. He says it’s just his age and stress levels and has nothing to do with me.

I’m just curious why he CAN come but just not in me? And why only through masturbation or oral? Any insight would be appreciated and any advice as to how I can support him with this would also be appreciated.

I’ve tried talking to him about this several times (from a loving/supportive standpoint), but I feel like that’s just making it worse/putting more pressure on him and he just tells me what I want to hear.