She broke up with me after changing her sexual boundaries /u/Poppopnamename Sex

I got divorced last year and I was dating this pretty amazing girl. Our sex was pretty awesome. My ex wife would never let me go down on her and the last three years we had a dead bedroom. When I started dating my new girl I was very happy to learn she enjoyed receiving oral. I would go down on her every time I got the chance often for hours at a time. I had always wanted to try eating ass. She had never experienced that and she ended up enjoying it. Part of the reason my oral performance would be so lengthy was she took a very long time to reach a single orgasm. Eventually I started buying some expensive sex toys like vibrators and clit sucking vibrators. She always enjoyed those too. We would talk about how she wasn’t used to being a sexual priority and how much she enjoyed what I did.

Well one night about two weeks ago I had been happily servicing her. It had been about 90 minutes and she was laying on her stomach. I guess she started to freeze up and she got a little overwhelmed. Once I noticed I immediately stopped and held her the rest of the night. I tried to talk to her about things but she wasn’t able to put words to her feelings. Well today she tells me that I guess she set a precedent that she was more open sexually than she was really comfortable with. So she felt uncomfortable with me and she wanted to end the relationship. I know she has some other therapy and anxiety she’s working on. So there could be more than she ever shared with me.

I just want to know. Should I do anything differently in the future? Communication is everything and I love talking in the bedroom and outside of it as well. She was always ashamed of saying things out loud. This girl was amazing and it honestly breaks my heart that she was so uncomfortable that she doesn’t even want to work or talk thing about with me. How can I avoid a situation like this or should I do anything differently? I don’t have a lot of experience with dating long term sexual partners.

I got divorced last year and I was dating this pretty amazing girl. Our sex was pretty awesome. My ex wife would never let me go down on her and the last three years we had a dead bedroom. When I started dating my new girl I was very happy to learn she enjoyed receiving oral. I would go down on her every time I got the chance often for hours at a time. I had always wanted to try eating ass. She had never experienced that and she ended up enjoying it. Part of the reason my oral performance would be so lengthy was she took a very long time to reach a single orgasm. Eventually I started buying some expensive sex toys like vibrators and clit sucking vibrators. She always enjoyed those too. We would talk about how she wasn’t used to being a sexual priority and how much she enjoyed what I did.

Well one night about two weeks ago I had been happily servicing her. It had been about 90 minutes and she was laying on her stomach. I guess she started to freeze up and she got a little overwhelmed. Once I noticed I immediately stopped and held her the rest of the night. I tried to talk to her about things but she wasn’t able to put words to her feelings. Well today she tells me that I guess she set a precedent that she was more open sexually than she was really comfortable with. So she felt uncomfortable with me and she wanted to end the relationship. I know she has some other therapy and anxiety she’s working on. So there could be more than she ever shared with me.

I just want to know. Should I do anything differently in the future? Communication is everything and I love talking in the bedroom and outside of it as well. She was always ashamed of saying things out loud. This girl was amazing and it honestly breaks my heart that she was so uncomfortable that she doesn’t even want to work or talk thing about with me. How can I avoid a situation like this or should I do anything differently? I don’t have a lot of experience with dating long term sexual partners.