25F here. I’ve only just had penetrative sex for the first time a few months ago, and I was nervous, so I wasn’t all that surprised to find that it hurt. We tried it a few more times after that, and unfortunately I wasn’t ever able to fully relax. That guy turned out to be an asshole though, so that’s the end of that.
However, I was kinda disappointed that I didn’t enjoy myself, because I pride myself on knowing my body and what I enjoy, because I’ve had so much practice with masturbation. I always wanted my first real penetrative experience to be with a real penis. So apart from my own finger I’ve never used anything else. I’m regretting that choice… because some practice probably would’ve helped. But anyhow, now that I’ve got that experience out of the way, I ended up buying a dildo to be able to practice more.
But even with the dildo, and even when I am alone and fully relaxed, deep penetration hurts me. It feels great up to about an inch, but any deeper than that and it’s just straight pain. No pleasure at all. I even made sure I’m using lube, and that didn’t help.
It’s possible that the dildo I’m using is a bit too big for a beginner, but I’d say it’s got about the same thickness as a typical average man.
I do have both PCOS and Crohn’s disease, so perhaps either of those conditions could be contributing to the pain? Or do you think I’m just not used to it? Any tips on how I could get used to it?
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r/sex 25F here. I’ve only just had penetrative sex for the first time a few months ago, and I was nervous, so I wasn’t all that surprised to find that it hurt. We tried it a few more times after that, and unfortunately I wasn’t ever able to fully relax. That guy turned out to be an asshole though, so that’s the end of that. However, I was kinda disappointed that I didn’t enjoy myself, because I pride myself on knowing my body and what I enjoy, because I’ve had so much practice with masturbation. I always wanted my first real penetrative experience to be with a real penis. So apart from my own finger I’ve never used anything else. I’m regretting that choice… because some practice probably would’ve helped. But anyhow, now that I’ve got that experience out of the way, I ended up buying a dildo to be able to practice more. But even with the dildo, and even when I am alone and fully relaxed, deep penetration hurts me. It feels great up to about an inch, but any deeper than that and it’s just straight pain. No pleasure at all. I even made sure I’m using lube, and that didn’t help. It’s possible that the dildo I’m using is a bit too big for a beginner, but I’d say it’s got about the same thickness as a typical average man. I do have both PCOS and Crohn’s disease, so perhaps either of those conditions could be contributing to the pain? Or do you think I’m just not used to it? Any tips on how I could get used to it? submitted by /u/sunlover010 [link] [comments]
25F here. I’ve only just had penetrative sex for the first time a few months ago, and I was nervous, so I wasn’t all that surprised to find that it hurt. We tried it a few more times after that, and unfortunately I wasn’t ever able to fully relax. That guy turned out to be an asshole though, so that’s the end of that.
However, I was kinda disappointed that I didn’t enjoy myself, because I pride myself on knowing my body and what I enjoy, because I’ve had so much practice with masturbation. I always wanted my first real penetrative experience to be with a real penis. So apart from my own finger I’ve never used anything else. I’m regretting that choice… because some practice probably would’ve helped. But anyhow, now that I’ve got that experience out of the way, I ended up buying a dildo to be able to practice more.
But even with the dildo, and even when I am alone and fully relaxed, deep penetration hurts me. It feels great up to about an inch, but any deeper than that and it’s just straight pain. No pleasure at all. I even made sure I’m using lube, and that didn’t help.
It’s possible that the dildo I’m using is a bit too big for a beginner, but I’d say it’s got about the same thickness as a typical average man.
I do have both PCOS and Crohn’s disease, so perhaps either of those conditions could be contributing to the pain? Or do you think I’m just not used to it? Any tips on how I could get used to it?
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