I’ve been going out with this woman for around a month. We’ve had sex a few times, and I’ve also spent a lot of time just sensually touching her (this is something I enjoy a lot — no inherent sexual motive). Past partners, however, and I have often enjoyed transitioning into something sexual from here.
The woman I’m currently seeing does not typically like this (she’s turned me away twice for trying and I’ve thus stopped trying out of respect for her preferences, but she’s followed both advances up by saying we can have sex at xyz), and while she has a decent sex drive and is pretty kinky (more so than I am), I’ve been finding she only wants to have sex in situations when it’s been discussed ahead of time.
I touched her non-sexually for a couple hours yesterday while we watched stuff on YouTube after a museum date, and when she left, she made it very clear she wanted to be very sexual on NYE when she came back over. I feel like I should have found this hotter than I did, but I kept thinking about the inevitable lack of spontaneity.
My sex drive is very reactive and I don’t tend to just be horny without someone physically there to touch/make out with (which led to a very awkward, albeit one-time, moment on our first time being intimate — she dropped her robe to reveal lingerie when I first walked in and I felt couldn’t get it up for an hour+ since my head wasn’t in it yet).
I’m gonna initiate talking about this after the new year, but I’m just curious if this is a sign of incompatibility, or if it instead can be worked through. Thanks all(:
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r/sex I’ve been going out with this woman for around a month. We’ve had sex a few times, and I’ve also spent a lot of time just sensually touching her (this is something I enjoy a lot — no inherent sexual motive). Past partners, however, and I have often enjoyed transitioning into something sexual from here. The woman I’m currently seeing does not typically like this (she’s turned me away twice for trying and I’ve thus stopped trying out of respect for her preferences, but she’s followed both advances up by saying we can have sex at xyz), and while she has a decent sex drive and is pretty kinky (more so than I am), I’ve been finding she only wants to have sex in situations when it’s been discussed ahead of time. I touched her non-sexually for a couple hours yesterday while we watched stuff on YouTube after a museum date, and when she left, she made it very clear she wanted to be very sexual on NYE when she came back over. I feel like I should have found this hotter than I did, but I kept thinking about the inevitable lack of spontaneity. My sex drive is very reactive and I don’t tend to just be horny without someone physically there to touch/make out with (which led to a very awkward, albeit one-time, moment on our first time being intimate — she dropped her robe to reveal lingerie when I first walked in and I felt couldn’t get it up for an hour+ since my head wasn’t in it yet). I’m gonna initiate talking about this after the new year, but I’m just curious if this is a sign of incompatibility, or if it instead can be worked through. Thanks all(: submitted by /u/HinsdaleCounty [link] [comments]
I’ve been going out with this woman for around a month. We’ve had sex a few times, and I’ve also spent a lot of time just sensually touching her (this is something I enjoy a lot — no inherent sexual motive). Past partners, however, and I have often enjoyed transitioning into something sexual from here.
The woman I’m currently seeing does not typically like this (she’s turned me away twice for trying and I’ve thus stopped trying out of respect for her preferences, but she’s followed both advances up by saying we can have sex at xyz), and while she has a decent sex drive and is pretty kinky (more so than I am), I’ve been finding she only wants to have sex in situations when it’s been discussed ahead of time.
I touched her non-sexually for a couple hours yesterday while we watched stuff on YouTube after a museum date, and when she left, she made it very clear she wanted to be very sexual on NYE when she came back over. I feel like I should have found this hotter than I did, but I kept thinking about the inevitable lack of spontaneity.
My sex drive is very reactive and I don’t tend to just be horny without someone physically there to touch/make out with (which led to a very awkward, albeit one-time, moment on our first time being intimate — she dropped her robe to reveal lingerie when I first walked in and I felt couldn’t get it up for an hour+ since my head wasn’t in it yet).
I’m gonna initiate talking about this after the new year, but I’m just curious if this is a sign of incompatibility, or if it instead can be worked through. Thanks all(:
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