Partner/Fwb doesnt really care about me during sex , any help? /u/obistray Sex

So I (F18) and my ( m20) idk what to call it , a ‘ situationship ‘ ( i hate that word too like cmon ) , have recently gotten into an argument that halted our sex life. This is also alongside me going home for winter break to see family and friends , so we really haven’t had sex or talked at all for approximately a month.

During this time i reflected on our sex life and realise that everything he does/did during sex was only ever to really benefit himself. He was a virgin before me and i had 1/2 previous partners before him . Ill list why i think this below;

1. never ever does foreplay, like ever. The most i got was a smack to the ass ( way too hard , even when i told him to go lighter generally he never did which resulted in me just being in pain from the ass smacking and him kinda ‘ playfully ‘ holding me down to do it more ), as-well as a few kisses.
2. deliberately him finishing early just to see if he could keep a boner , which he never could so he just finished and im left there kinda unfulfilled
3. him always wanting head – he quite literally could never get it hard unless i was giving head or a handjob so he most of the time got me to do it , and then would proceed to just push my head down when i didn’t want it.
4. quite literally just calls me a sextoy – no bullshit to me face when i told him to stop.

i have communicated a few of these concerns to him and plan to tell him all this when i get back after new years but does anyone know how i can approach this?

So I (F18) and my ( m20) idk what to call it , a ‘ situationship ‘ ( i hate that word too like cmon ) , have recently gotten into an argument that halted our sex life. This is also alongside me going home for winter break to see family and friends , so we really haven’t had sex or talked at all for approximately a month.

During this time i reflected on our sex life and realise that everything he does/did during sex was only ever to really benefit himself. He was a virgin before me and i had 1/2 previous partners before him . Ill list why i think this below;

1. never ever does foreplay, like ever. The most i got was a smack to the ass ( way too hard , even when i told him to go lighter generally he never did which resulted in me just being in pain from the ass smacking and him kinda ‘ playfully ‘ holding me down to do it more ), as-well as a few kisses.
2. deliberately him finishing early just to see if he could keep a boner , which he never could so he just finished and im left there kinda unfulfilled
3. him always wanting head – he quite literally could never get it hard unless i was giving head or a handjob so he most of the time got me to do it , and then would proceed to just push my head down when i didn’t want it.
4. quite literally just calls me a sextoy – no bullshit to me face when i told him to stop.

i have communicated a few of these concerns to him and plan to tell him all this when i get back after new years but does anyone know how i can approach this?