Husband avoids certain positions that I like because they make him insecure /u/ISuckAtNames91 Sex

We’ve been married 6 years and are both in our mid 30s. He never used to have issues with insecurity, but likewise, I did. He has never tried very hard to hide his like for women with bigger butts which is not something I traditionally had, which kind of made me insecure about it. I put a lot of effort into working my glutes though and then my metabolism seemed to slow down a couple years ago, conveniently in a way that my body seems to store fat in the right places!

So now, here I am with a butt, which he very much likes, but he seemed to be avoiding any from behind positions which I enjoy. I finally asked him and he said it’s because the visual makes him feel small now.

It’s so frustrating after feeling like I didn’t fit his ideal image for so long, and now that I do, we can’t have sex in the positions I like because he doesn’t fit his own ideal image!

I guess I’m just wondering if anyone has any advice on how to approach or deal with this.

We’ve been married 6 years and are both in our mid 30s. He never used to have issues with insecurity, but likewise, I did. He has never tried very hard to hide his like for women with bigger butts which is not something I traditionally had, which kind of made me insecure about it. I put a lot of effort into working my glutes though and then my metabolism seemed to slow down a couple years ago, conveniently in a way that my body seems to store fat in the right places!

So now, here I am with a butt, which he very much likes, but he seemed to be avoiding any from behind positions which I enjoy. I finally asked him and he said it’s because the visual makes him feel small now.

It’s so frustrating after feeling like I didn’t fit his ideal image for so long, and now that I do, we can’t have sex in the positions I like because he doesn’t fit his own ideal image!

I guess I’m just wondering if anyone has any advice on how to approach or deal with this.