Help me help my wife find her sexuality back – my new years resolution /u/Old-Detail-1497 Sex

This is not a complaint about a dead bedroom. This is a commited husband and father fighting tooth and nails to get the marriage and intimacy back on its feet after two kids.

Previously she was active and proactive. Would take naked pictures, initiate sexy conversations, discuss her preferences and her views on sex and relationships. And she was super open minded to try and experiment and have fun. It was like she had an erotic side, and was interested in her own and mine sexuality.

After kids (2), and the course of life, it’s like this flame in her has completely vanished, like it never existed. Entirely disappeared in all its shapes and forms.

Kids now are a bit older now and time-wise, we have our life back. Monday through Friday we have the whole day as kids are in school and daycare. I work a flex job, from home, and she does not have a formal job. She manages some things around the house, guide our cleaner and has time to pursue some of her interests during the week.

I’m already covering the basics – we both do therapy (she asked to wait a bit to go couples therapy). We already settled for at least one date night a week, and at least once a month we escape during the day to go to a Spa, movies, or do something together. We both set ourselves to exercise, and be healthy. In general, we have a good and calm life, stable routine, financial means, and a good partnership.

I’m not looking for analysis on her case. And I’m not looking into purely having sex. Intercourse actually is not even on my mind now.

I want all your tips, tricks, suggestions, advice and insight on how I can help her reconnect with her once blazing sexuality, her erotic self.

I set myself to fully dedicate into making our marriage the best ever, including this very important aspect of it, for both. I think this is the most lacking part now. It’s my only and one new years resolution.

Love you all!

This is not a complaint about a dead bedroom. This is a commited husband and father fighting tooth and nails to get the marriage and intimacy back on its feet after two kids.

Previously she was active and proactive. Would take naked pictures, initiate sexy conversations, discuss her preferences and her views on sex and relationships. And she was super open minded to try and experiment and have fun. It was like she had an erotic side, and was interested in her own and mine sexuality.

After kids (2), and the course of life, it’s like this flame in her has completely vanished, like it never existed. Entirely disappeared in all its shapes and forms.

Kids now are a bit older now and time-wise, we have our life back. Monday through Friday we have the whole day as kids are in school and daycare. I work a flex job, from home, and she does not have a formal job. She manages some things around the house, guide our cleaner and has time to pursue some of her interests during the week.

I’m already covering the basics – we both do therapy (she asked to wait a bit to go couples therapy). We already settled for at least one date night a week, and at least once a month we escape during the day to go to a Spa, movies, or do something together. We both set ourselves to exercise, and be healthy. In general, we have a good and calm life, stable routine, financial means, and a good partnership.

I’m not looking for analysis on her case. And I’m not looking into purely having sex. Intercourse actually is not even on my mind now.

I want all your tips, tricks, suggestions, advice and insight on how I can help her reconnect with her once blazing sexuality, her erotic self.

I set myself to fully dedicate into making our marriage the best ever, including this very important aspect of it, for both. I think this is the most lacking part now. It’s my only and one new years resolution.

Love you all!