Haven’t had sex in 9 years and I’m afraid to start having again /u/Possible_Reaction515 Sex

9 years ago I decided to stop all kinds of relationships. I even felt disgusted watching people holding hands or kissing. With therapy I’ve been feeling better and now I’m starting to want some kind of relationship again. It can be something casual or long term, but what’s really stopping me is that I’m afraid of having sex again.

Now don’t get me wrong, I used to be good. Multiple orgasms, a lot of foreplay, oral sex until she at least cums once, trying for twice, and lots of compliments. It was always my ego boost and I worked hard for it.

But now I’m not in my twenties anymore, not in good shape and it’s been so long that I don’t know if I can still perform. I’m afraid to let my next partner down. I kinda want that ego boost again.

I’m 36, not old, but 9 years without doing it? I don’t know, I think I’m not going to be good enough. Can you forget how to do it?

9 years ago I decided to stop all kinds of relationships. I even felt disgusted watching people holding hands or kissing. With therapy I’ve been feeling better and now I’m starting to want some kind of relationship again. It can be something casual or long term, but what’s really stopping me is that I’m afraid of having sex again.

Now don’t get me wrong, I used to be good. Multiple orgasms, a lot of foreplay, oral sex until she at least cums once, trying for twice, and lots of compliments. It was always my ego boost and I worked hard for it.

But now I’m not in my twenties anymore, not in good shape and it’s been so long that I don’t know if I can still perform. I’m afraid to let my next partner down. I kinda want that ego boost again.

I’m 36, not old, but 9 years without doing it? I don’t know, I think I’m not going to be good enough. Can you forget how to do it?