Afraid I was breaking gf’s boundaries by accident. /u/ThrowRA-Plastic-2506 Sex

I am worried about this topic of performing oral on my gf (24F).

How should I (27M) go about this topic of performing oral on my gf (24F)?

So my (27M) gf has a bit of a problem with finishing, as in she can take quite a while to finish, be it from oral, PiV, hand stuff, her masturbating, toys, whatever.

It’s not something that is really bothering me, but oral can take some time. I am aware that women sometimes feel insecure about how long it takes them to finish, which is why I want to let her know that I enjoy doing that, and that it gives me pleasure too.

But I’ve gotten into my own head lately when it comes to topic of consent, and sometimes I wonder if I overstep boundaries and I should be more careful.

Normally she doesn’t finish via PiV, so I start giving her oral right away. Sometimes after a while she’ll kinda lift my head up, I guess as a sign that she intends to take over and finish the job herself.

Now, I kinda alwqys figured she does that because she thinks she is taking too long (cause she did make a few comments in that regard), so my instinct is to show her that I really want to keep going, so I either move her hand away playfully, or move my head in na-ah motion, or tell her something along me enjoying it or ‘please I need more’, you get the gist. Cause I just wanna make her know that I really want to continue doing it for her. Tbh sometimes it’s genuinely for selfish purposes, as I get really into it.

She never seems to mind that, and usuqlly just falls back on her back and continues scratching my head, or sometimes gives me a shy smile.

But I’ve been feeling kinda weird lately and wondering if there is a better approach to this issue? She never commented anything about it and I figured that my behaviour was me asking her to let me continue in non verbal signs, and I always took her reaction as a yes.

I definitely plan to talk to her, but I am just feeling weird now and wondering if I over stepped boundaries and she maybe just doesn’t wanna hurt my feelings so she lets me go on.

TL; DR: I (27M) am scared that I might have pushed my gf (24F) boumdaries in bed by accident.

I am worried about this topic of performing oral on my gf (24F).

How should I (27M) go about this topic of performing oral on my gf (24F)?

So my (27M) gf has a bit of a problem with finishing, as in she can take quite a while to finish, be it from oral, PiV, hand stuff, her masturbating, toys, whatever.

It’s not something that is really bothering me, but oral can take some time. I am aware that women sometimes feel insecure about how long it takes them to finish, which is why I want to let her know that I enjoy doing that, and that it gives me pleasure too.

But I’ve gotten into my own head lately when it comes to topic of consent, and sometimes I wonder if I overstep boundaries and I should be more careful.

Normally she doesn’t finish via PiV, so I start giving her oral right away. Sometimes after a while she’ll kinda lift my head up, I guess as a sign that she intends to take over and finish the job herself.

Now, I kinda alwqys figured she does that because she thinks she is taking too long (cause she did make a few comments in that regard), so my instinct is to show her that I really want to keep going, so I either move her hand away playfully, or move my head in na-ah motion, or tell her something along me enjoying it or ‘please I need more’, you get the gist. Cause I just wanna make her know that I really want to continue doing it for her. Tbh sometimes it’s genuinely for selfish purposes, as I get really into it.

She never seems to mind that, and usuqlly just falls back on her back and continues scratching my head, or sometimes gives me a shy smile.

But I’ve been feeling kinda weird lately and wondering if there is a better approach to this issue? She never commented anything about it and I figured that my behaviour was me asking her to let me continue in non verbal signs, and I always took her reaction as a yes.

I definitely plan to talk to her, but I am just feeling weird now and wondering if I over stepped boundaries and she maybe just doesn’t wanna hurt my feelings so she lets me go on.

TL; DR: I (27M) am scared that I might have pushed my gf (24F) boumdaries in bed by accident.