My wife used to love doing certain things like wearing buttplugs during sex and before anal, anal fisting, role playing, anal fingering during intercourse or oral sex, and bondage. Now all of a sudden she wants to do nothing more than vanilla sex and anal when she’s on top, and without any lube other than spit, which isn’t terribly comfortable for me. She says the lube “burns,” but is against trying other brands, so its use spit or just not have anal. She says bondage is demeaning and my fingers/fist/plugs are unsanitary, even when I tell her I’ll scrub them like a freakin’ surgeon does before sex. I don’t understand why my penis is sanitary enough to go into her ass but nothing else is. No matter what I say, the answer is “no”, even when it doesn’t make any sense.
She has reached the age of 53 and coming out of the other end of perimenopause, so I don’t know if that has something/everything to do with it. Whenever I try to talk about it, it’s clear she just doesn’t want to discuss it and that’s it. She does say she really doesn’t get horny anymore, but we schedule sex and once we begin she “gets there” and says she really enjoys it, has multiple orgasms, and we’ll both still make a lot of noise. It’s sad, because we have an entire box of toys, porn, sexy clothes, etc. in the closet, and I just feel like throwing it in a dumpster somewhere.
A few things: 1. She has always been a germaphobe. We open mouth kissed our first two dates in our 20’s before she finally had to say it was just too gross for her to keep doing that. She has indeed gotten worse as time has gone by. The pandemic only pushed things further for her. 2. I don’t suspect she’s cheating. My wife is incapable of lying. She once tried to blame her horrid fart on the dog, but when I got suspicious, she completely caved and apologized for days. Her biggest pet peeve with others is lying and if you don’t tell the truth to her, God help you. 3. I’ve asked her a million times if it’s me. I’ve probably put on 30 pounds in 25 years, but she actually likes chunky men. Guys other women find hot are too skinny and “pretty boy” for her. My dad bod and hairy face are what she loves.
So, any thoughts gang? Is it just she’s changed so get over it old man? Thanks! Any thoughts are more than welcome.
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r/sex My wife used to love doing certain things like wearing buttplugs during sex and before anal, anal fisting, role playing, anal fingering during intercourse or oral sex, and bondage. Now all of a sudden she wants to do nothing more than vanilla sex and anal when she’s on top, and without any lube other than spit, which isn’t terribly comfortable for me. She says the lube “burns,” but is against trying other brands, so its use spit or just not have anal. She says bondage is demeaning and my fingers/fist/plugs are unsanitary, even when I tell her I’ll scrub them like a freakin’ surgeon does before sex. I don’t understand why my penis is sanitary enough to go into her ass but nothing else is. No matter what I say, the answer is “no”, even when it doesn’t make any sense. She has reached the age of 53 and coming out of the other end of perimenopause, so I don’t know if that has something/everything to do with it. Whenever I try to talk about it, it’s clear she just doesn’t want to discuss it and that’s it. She does say she really doesn’t get horny anymore, but we schedule sex and once we begin she “gets there” and says she really enjoys it, has multiple orgasms, and we’ll both still make a lot of noise. It’s sad, because we have an entire box of toys, porn, sexy clothes, etc. in the closet, and I just feel like throwing it in a dumpster somewhere. A few things: 1. She has always been a germaphobe. We open mouth kissed our first two dates in our 20’s before she finally had to say it was just too gross for her to keep doing that. She has indeed gotten worse as time has gone by. The pandemic only pushed things further for her. 2. I don’t suspect she’s cheating. My wife is incapable of lying. She once tried to blame her horrid fart on the dog, but when I got suspicious, she completely caved and apologized for days. Her biggest pet peeve with others is lying and if you don’t tell the truth to her, God help you. 3. I’ve asked her a million times if it’s me. I’ve probably put on 30 pounds in 25 years, but she actually likes chunky men. Guys other women find hot are too skinny and “pretty boy” for her. My dad bod and hairy face are what she loves. So, any thoughts gang? Is it just she’s changed so get over it old man? Thanks! Any thoughts are more than welcome. submitted by /u/OriolesrRavens1974 [link] [comments]
My wife used to love doing certain things like wearing buttplugs during sex and before anal, anal fisting, role playing, anal fingering during intercourse or oral sex, and bondage. Now all of a sudden she wants to do nothing more than vanilla sex and anal when she’s on top, and without any lube other than spit, which isn’t terribly comfortable for me. She says the lube “burns,” but is against trying other brands, so its use spit or just not have anal. She says bondage is demeaning and my fingers/fist/plugs are unsanitary, even when I tell her I’ll scrub them like a freakin’ surgeon does before sex. I don’t understand why my penis is sanitary enough to go into her ass but nothing else is. No matter what I say, the answer is “no”, even when it doesn’t make any sense.
She has reached the age of 53 and coming out of the other end of perimenopause, so I don’t know if that has something/everything to do with it. Whenever I try to talk about it, it’s clear she just doesn’t want to discuss it and that’s it. She does say she really doesn’t get horny anymore, but we schedule sex and once we begin she “gets there” and says she really enjoys it, has multiple orgasms, and we’ll both still make a lot of noise. It’s sad, because we have an entire box of toys, porn, sexy clothes, etc. in the closet, and I just feel like throwing it in a dumpster somewhere.
A few things: 1. She has always been a germaphobe. We open mouth kissed our first two dates in our 20’s before she finally had to say it was just too gross for her to keep doing that. She has indeed gotten worse as time has gone by. The pandemic only pushed things further for her. 2. I don’t suspect she’s cheating. My wife is incapable of lying. She once tried to blame her horrid fart on the dog, but when I got suspicious, she completely caved and apologized for days. Her biggest pet peeve with others is lying and if you don’t tell the truth to her, God help you. 3. I’ve asked her a million times if it’s me. I’ve probably put on 30 pounds in 25 years, but she actually likes chunky men. Guys other women find hot are too skinny and “pretty boy” for her. My dad bod and hairy face are what she loves.
So, any thoughts gang? Is it just she’s changed so get over it old man? Thanks! Any thoughts are more than welcome.
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