Hey everyone, I (24m) could use some advice or just a space to vent. Lately, I’ve been struggling with casual hookups, not because I’m not getting attention, but because I’m so in my own head about it.
For context, I used to be pretty active sexually, and I didn’t think twice about it. But over the last two years, I haven’t had any sex involving penetration at all.
The issue is, I’ve developed this insecurity around my sexual abilities. Sometimes I go soft, or I finish way too fast. It’s like my body’s out of sync with my mind, and it’s making me feel like I’d just disappoint anyone I get with.
It’s frustrating because I’ve been getting attention from some really amazing, beautiful women, but instead of leaning into those opportunities, I’ve been avoiding them. I convince myself that I’ll mess it up or that I’m not good enough, and I just let the chance pass by.
Has anyone else gone through something like this? How do you get past the mental block and rebuild your confidence? I feel like I’m stuck in a loop of wanting to connect but being too afraid of screwing it up.
Any advice or even just stories from people who’ve been through similar situations would be appreciated. Thanks for reading.
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r/sex Hey everyone, I (24m) could use some advice or just a space to vent. Lately, I’ve been struggling with casual hookups, not because I’m not getting attention, but because I’m so in my own head about it. For context, I used to be pretty active sexually, and I didn’t think twice about it. But over the last two years, I haven’t had any sex involving penetration at all. The issue is, I’ve developed this insecurity around my sexual abilities. Sometimes I go soft, or I finish way too fast. It’s like my body’s out of sync with my mind, and it’s making me feel like I’d just disappoint anyone I get with. It’s frustrating because I’ve been getting attention from some really amazing, beautiful women, but instead of leaning into those opportunities, I’ve been avoiding them. I convince myself that I’ll mess it up or that I’m not good enough, and I just let the chance pass by. Has anyone else gone through something like this? How do you get past the mental block and rebuild your confidence? I feel like I’m stuck in a loop of wanting to connect but being too afraid of screwing it up. Any advice or even just stories from people who’ve been through similar situations would be appreciated. Thanks for reading. submitted by /u/LeMe121 [link] [comments]
Hey everyone, I (24m) could use some advice or just a space to vent. Lately, I’ve been struggling with casual hookups, not because I’m not getting attention, but because I’m so in my own head about it.
For context, I used to be pretty active sexually, and I didn’t think twice about it. But over the last two years, I haven’t had any sex involving penetration at all.
The issue is, I’ve developed this insecurity around my sexual abilities. Sometimes I go soft, or I finish way too fast. It’s like my body’s out of sync with my mind, and it’s making me feel like I’d just disappoint anyone I get with.
It’s frustrating because I’ve been getting attention from some really amazing, beautiful women, but instead of leaning into those opportunities, I’ve been avoiding them. I convince myself that I’ll mess it up or that I’m not good enough, and I just let the chance pass by.
Has anyone else gone through something like this? How do you get past the mental block and rebuild your confidence? I feel like I’m stuck in a loop of wanting to connect but being too afraid of screwing it up.
Any advice or even just stories from people who’ve been through similar situations would be appreciated. Thanks for reading.
submitted by /u/LeMe121
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