is it unhealthy to only be able to masturbate with a toy? (F) /u/spoonwarrior9 Sex

So a few months ago, I got a clit vibrator cuz it was on sale and I believed it would help me masturbate faster. I first got into masturbation a year ago and at first I was able to do it quite easily with material, but eventually it took a long time for me to orgasm (?) like an hour and sometimes I wouldn’t even get to, so I would just give up. I tried reading articles of how to masturbate with fingers but I still couldn’t do it right. So I got a toy to make this easier and faster cuz it was eating up my time. And it certainly did, super fast. Like 5 mins. But sometimes I kinda go too hard with it and use it the wrong way so it hurts a bit…

But now it’s like, I can’t orgasm without a toy and if I just use my fingers, it’s really really hard. Like I don’t understand how other women can do it with just their fingers anymore. And right now, I’m completely off masturbation. But I also know masturbation is.. healthy? But like, I don’t think it’s healthy if I can’t orgasm without a toy cuz like then how am I supposed to orgasm in the future when I get a partner? So like.. I’m confused and conflicted. And like when I masturbate, it gets me super tired so I really can only do it before I sleep cuz if I do it in the morning (kind of my usual), I just get really sleepy throughout the day.

I read on reddit that women like masturbate 4-5 times a month? And I think it kinda has a connotation of being ‘healthy’ while I’m here trying to not do anything with sex at all for the moment. Like do I have to? Like I know it’s great pleasure, but I’m on like a break right now cuz it was really addictive and not very cool.. Like I just get off from a fantasy/story and then like. It just reinforces those sexual notions. I don’t want to reinforce that cuz those r unrealistic expectations that I don’t want on my romantic interests. But then how else do I get off? Like.. I’m very conflicted.

Also I just do clit stimulation for masturbation. That nub is scary as fuck. I’m too scared to actually touch the actual thing… hell nah. But yeah, any insights would be helpful!

So a few months ago, I got a clit vibrator cuz it was on sale and I believed it would help me masturbate faster. I first got into masturbation a year ago and at first I was able to do it quite easily with material, but eventually it took a long time for me to orgasm (?) like an hour and sometimes I wouldn’t even get to, so I would just give up. I tried reading articles of how to masturbate with fingers but I still couldn’t do it right. So I got a toy to make this easier and faster cuz it was eating up my time. And it certainly did, super fast. Like 5 mins. But sometimes I kinda go too hard with it and use it the wrong way so it hurts a bit…

But now it’s like, I can’t orgasm without a toy and if I just use my fingers, it’s really really hard. Like I don’t understand how other women can do it with just their fingers anymore. And right now, I’m completely off masturbation. But I also know masturbation is.. healthy? But like, I don’t think it’s healthy if I can’t orgasm without a toy cuz like then how am I supposed to orgasm in the future when I get a partner? So like.. I’m confused and conflicted. And like when I masturbate, it gets me super tired so I really can only do it before I sleep cuz if I do it in the morning (kind of my usual), I just get really sleepy throughout the day.

I read on reddit that women like masturbate 4-5 times a month? And I think it kinda has a connotation of being ‘healthy’ while I’m here trying to not do anything with sex at all for the moment. Like do I have to? Like I know it’s great pleasure, but I’m on like a break right now cuz it was really addictive and not very cool.. Like I just get off from a fantasy/story and then like. It just reinforces those sexual notions. I don’t want to reinforce that cuz those r unrealistic expectations that I don’t want on my romantic interests. But then how else do I get off? Like.. I’m very conflicted.

Also I just do clit stimulation for masturbation. That nub is scary as fuck. I’m too scared to actually touch the actual thing… hell nah. But yeah, any insights would be helpful!