Hi all. I’ve been w my husband for almost twenty years. We have kids. A house. A decent life. When we got together we were both big partiers and carefree. We would fight but only when we were intoxicated. But everything was fine. In the last few years, it seemed like our sex life started dwindling and so we started trying new things to spice it up. That was when everything started going sideways. The stuff he wants to do isn’t really my bag. I tried to get into it for him but I guess the fact I wasn’t genuinely enthusiastic was apparent. We have basically been fighting every week or two now. He keeps saying I’m not trying and I don’t know how to show it anymore. Certain things I think will be sufficient evidence of trying to look into new ideas for the bedroom or evidence I’m trying to rekindle things fall flat. Of note, I’m in menopause. I couldn’t give a fig about getting it on. And he knows that. He still asks that I try for him and I think that’s fair. But I am at a loss of what to do…what can I do to prove to him I want to work on this? I don’t want to lose him. We have a good life with great kids and other than this issue, our family life is wonderful. But he’s hurt and literally feels like if I truly loved him, I’d be motivated to fix this. I desperately want to fix it but the motivation is lacking. I don’t know what to do.
[tl;dr my husband wants me to prove I can improve our relationship and I don’t know how]
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r/sex Hi all. I’ve been w my husband for almost twenty years. We have kids. A house. A decent life. When we got together we were both big partiers and carefree. We would fight but only when we were intoxicated. But everything was fine. In the last few years, it seemed like our sex life started dwindling and so we started trying new things to spice it up. That was when everything started going sideways. The stuff he wants to do isn’t really my bag. I tried to get into it for him but I guess the fact I wasn’t genuinely enthusiastic was apparent. We have basically been fighting every week or two now. He keeps saying I’m not trying and I don’t know how to show it anymore. Certain things I think will be sufficient evidence of trying to look into new ideas for the bedroom or evidence I’m trying to rekindle things fall flat. Of note, I’m in menopause. I couldn’t give a fig about getting it on. And he knows that. He still asks that I try for him and I think that’s fair. But I am at a loss of what to do…what can I do to prove to him I want to work on this? I don’t want to lose him. We have a good life with great kids and other than this issue, our family life is wonderful. But he’s hurt and literally feels like if I truly loved him, I’d be motivated to fix this. I desperately want to fix it but the motivation is lacking. I don’t know what to do. [tl;dr my husband wants me to prove I can improve our relationship and I don’t know how] submitted by /u/Bulky-Equivalent8444 [link] [comments]
Hi all. I’ve been w my husband for almost twenty years. We have kids. A house. A decent life. When we got together we were both big partiers and carefree. We would fight but only when we were intoxicated. But everything was fine. In the last few years, it seemed like our sex life started dwindling and so we started trying new things to spice it up. That was when everything started going sideways. The stuff he wants to do isn’t really my bag. I tried to get into it for him but I guess the fact I wasn’t genuinely enthusiastic was apparent. We have basically been fighting every week or two now. He keeps saying I’m not trying and I don’t know how to show it anymore. Certain things I think will be sufficient evidence of trying to look into new ideas for the bedroom or evidence I’m trying to rekindle things fall flat. Of note, I’m in menopause. I couldn’t give a fig about getting it on. And he knows that. He still asks that I try for him and I think that’s fair. But I am at a loss of what to do…what can I do to prove to him I want to work on this? I don’t want to lose him. We have a good life with great kids and other than this issue, our family life is wonderful. But he’s hurt and literally feels like if I truly loved him, I’d be motivated to fix this. I desperately want to fix it but the motivation is lacking. I don’t know what to do.
[tl;dr my husband wants me to prove I can improve our relationship and I don’t know how]
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