Intimacy rejected for 28M from 25F in a long distance relationship /u/Boring-Beginning9713 Sex

So, here’s the scoop: I’m 28M, and my GF (25F) and I are in a long-distance relationship that stretches across coasts. We’ve been doing the whole “love from afar” thing, with regular sex, and a few months back, we made this grand plan to meet in the middle of the U.S. It was set to be a magical reunion, complete with all the intimacy we’d eagerly talked about over calls and texts. Plus costs associated with AirBnB, changing flights to make it happen, etc.

Now, life being life, it turned out we only had one precious night together before I had to hit the road again. She happened to be nearby, so the stars aligned perfectly—it was a fortuitous little gift from the universe!

But here’s where the plot twist comes in: over the course of the day, she decided that our long-anticipated intimate evening wasn’t going to happen. Her reason? A misunderstanding, which I clarified, resolved, and honestly thought wasn’t that big of a deal. It felt like she was turning a molehill into a mountain .

Look, I completely understand that intimacy is a mutual thing, and people have their reasons—it’s not something anyone can demand (nor would I ever try to). But I couldn’t help feeling disappointed. We had literally been talking about this moment for months, and it was the one night we had between a three-month stretch of not seeing each other.

It’s not like I expect sex just because we’re together, but if we’ve been hyping it up and there’s no real reason to call it off, I can’t help but wonder… is there something about me she’s not into? Would this be acceptable to you? Does this seem rather harsh? Does this cross any boundaries of expectations?

So, here’s the scoop: I’m 28M, and my GF (25F) and I are in a long-distance relationship that stretches across coasts. We’ve been doing the whole “love from afar” thing, with regular sex, and a few months back, we made this grand plan to meet in the middle of the U.S. It was set to be a magical reunion, complete with all the intimacy we’d eagerly talked about over calls and texts. Plus costs associated with AirBnB, changing flights to make it happen, etc.

Now, life being life, it turned out we only had one precious night together before I had to hit the road again. She happened to be nearby, so the stars aligned perfectly—it was a fortuitous little gift from the universe!

But here’s where the plot twist comes in: over the course of the day, she decided that our long-anticipated intimate evening wasn’t going to happen. Her reason? A misunderstanding, which I clarified, resolved, and honestly thought wasn’t that big of a deal. It felt like she was turning a molehill into a mountain .

Look, I completely understand that intimacy is a mutual thing, and people have their reasons—it’s not something anyone can demand (nor would I ever try to). But I couldn’t help feeling disappointed. We had literally been talking about this moment for months, and it was the one night we had between a three-month stretch of not seeing each other.

It’s not like I expect sex just because we’re together, but if we’ve been hyping it up and there’s no real reason to call it off, I can’t help but wonder… is there something about me she’s not into? Would this be acceptable to you? Does this seem rather harsh? Does this cross any boundaries of expectations?