I think my (M27) sex drive is fading because of the poor sexlife with my girlfriend (F27). How can I change this? /u/MrOobbo Sex

I think my libido is fading because of my (27M) poor sexlife with my long term girlfriend (27F)….What can I do?

Hey,

the title basically states my question, but let me (27M) explain a bit more. Especially about my sexlife as this is in the center of my worries.

So I’ve been in a long term relationship for seven years now (with 27F) Before that I only had two other sexual partners. My first time… well was my fist time. With the second partner I really had a good time. Lots of sex, lots of fun. Back then I was able to last what I would describe as typical for a man. Sometimes shorter sessions, but most of the times longer. Also I was able to perform a second time not to long after round one. I was also able to have my request heard. That was also the last time I got a blowjob (which kind of bothers me, but might be besides the point).

Anyway this changed with my current partner. Once I got together with my current girlfriend I was having trouble to get going but that went away a few weeks in. But what stayed is, that I can’t hold it for too long and a second round takes quite a long break in between. But if we happen to have sex more often I start to be able to last a lot longer.. Also she didn’t and doesn’t really have a big sex drive. So if we have sex it’s not too often and also always the same way. In the bed missionary or she sitting on top. My request don’t really go anywhere as she seems scared to try new things. Or just doesn’t want to. For example the blowjob thing. I’ve asked her about a few times but always get a “maybe someday” back. Over the time I just stop asking all together, as I don’t want to push her into something she doesn’t want to do and I honestly feels exhausting always getting my request rejected.

Now I have the feeling that I stared to loose interest in sex over the years. To a point were I’m now not really exited about masturbating anymore and feel like sex is sometimes a chore. But I don’t really want this to happen. I still feel the urge to explore and experience what’s possible. But that get pushed further and further back into my mind.

I’m not really sure what my question it but maybe some of you experienced something similar and might want to share. Or have any tips and tricks on how to get my fun into sex back. And honestly tips on how to last longer would be also really appreciated.

tl;dr

I don’t really have sex often with my girlfriend (less than I wanted to) and I start to loose my sex drive as well.

I think my libido is fading because of my (27M) poor sexlife with my long term girlfriend (27F)….What can I do?

Hey,

the title basically states my question, but let me (27M) explain a bit more. Especially about my sexlife as this is in the center of my worries.

So I’ve been in a long term relationship for seven years now (with 27F) Before that I only had two other sexual partners. My first time… well was my fist time. With the second partner I really had a good time. Lots of sex, lots of fun. Back then I was able to last what I would describe as typical for a man. Sometimes shorter sessions, but most of the times longer. Also I was able to perform a second time not to long after round one. I was also able to have my request heard. That was also the last time I got a blowjob (which kind of bothers me, but might be besides the point).

Anyway this changed with my current partner. Once I got together with my current girlfriend I was having trouble to get going but that went away a few weeks in. But what stayed is, that I can’t hold it for too long and a second round takes quite a long break in between. But if we happen to have sex more often I start to be able to last a lot longer.. Also she didn’t and doesn’t really have a big sex drive. So if we have sex it’s not too often and also always the same way. In the bed missionary or she sitting on top. My request don’t really go anywhere as she seems scared to try new things. Or just doesn’t want to. For example the blowjob thing. I’ve asked her about a few times but always get a “maybe someday” back. Over the time I just stop asking all together, as I don’t want to push her into something she doesn’t want to do and I honestly feels exhausting always getting my request rejected.

Now I have the feeling that I stared to loose interest in sex over the years. To a point were I’m now not really exited about masturbating anymore and feel like sex is sometimes a chore. But I don’t really want this to happen. I still feel the urge to explore and experience what’s possible. But that get pushed further and further back into my mind.

I’m not really sure what my question it but maybe some of you experienced something similar and might want to share. Or have any tips and tricks on how to get my fun into sex back. And honestly tips on how to last longer would be also really appreciated.

tl;dr

I don’t really have sex often with my girlfriend (less than I wanted to) and I start to loose my sex drive as well.