I love my gf, but the sex ain’t great. /u/HelpfulMost2302 Sex

TL;DR sums this long-ass thread up: My gf is perfect for me except our sexual relationship which doesn’t satisfy me at all. What should I do?

I am 27M, my gf is 27 as well. We’ve been together for over 2 years. We have a great relationship, I truly love her and truly feel loved. We both see ourselves marry and have kids together. But I’m a very sexual person and she isn’t.

We don’t have much sex, once a week in a good month and when we do, it feels good and all but very vanilla and sometimes kinda boring. Basically, we do a long roleplay which is good and fun, we kiss and touch each other and I go down on her lot, and then she rides me until I cum. That’s basically it. These are the main issues I have:

1) we never change things and it almost feel like routine. We tried different positions but most of the time she prefers to just be on top.

2) Only once a week and sometimes we went an entire month without having sex. She’s almost never in the mood, and when she is I really need to work hard to get her there which makes it feel like a chore, while I want it to be more spontaneous.

3) She never touches me intimately or did anything to turn me on (when we’re not having sex). It feels like if I won’t try to get things started we’ll never have sex and she won’t even think about it.

+She never had an orgasm, she said that the closest to orgasm she ever felt is with me but never got there.

All that bothers me alot. To me it feels like she doesn’t care if we have sex or not and she sometimes go on with it just because we didn’t do it for a while and doesn’t want to get me upset. I spoke with her about it a few times. She says she enjoys our sex very much (said I’m the best she had and I believe her) and she understand the things I mentioned above and wants me to feel better about our sexual relationship, but nothing changes.

I REALLY love her, she is the world to me and I want to spend the rest of my life with her, but my sex life is also really important to me and I’m not satisfied with how it’s been in the last 2 years, and I don’t want sex to be like that for the rest of my life.

I don’t know what to do or think about that. I don’t know if I should or want to sacrafice my sexual satisfaction for the girl that conquered my heart.

TL;DR sums this long-ass thread up: My gf is perfect for me except our sexual relationship which doesn’t satisfy me at all. What should I do?

I am 27M, my gf is 27 as well. We’ve been together for over 2 years. We have a great relationship, I truly love her and truly feel loved. We both see ourselves marry and have kids together. But I’m a very sexual person and she isn’t.

We don’t have much sex, once a week in a good month and when we do, it feels good and all but very vanilla and sometimes kinda boring. Basically, we do a long roleplay which is good and fun, we kiss and touch each other and I go down on her lot, and then she rides me until I cum. That’s basically it. These are the main issues I have:

1) we never change things and it almost feel like routine. We tried different positions but most of the time she prefers to just be on top.

2) Only once a week and sometimes we went an entire month without having sex. She’s almost never in the mood, and when she is I really need to work hard to get her there which makes it feel like a chore, while I want it to be more spontaneous.

3) She never touches me intimately or did anything to turn me on (when we’re not having sex). It feels like if I won’t try to get things started we’ll never have sex and she won’t even think about it.

+She never had an orgasm, she said that the closest to orgasm she ever felt is with me but never got there.

All that bothers me alot. To me it feels like she doesn’t care if we have sex or not and she sometimes go on with it just because we didn’t do it for a while and doesn’t want to get me upset. I spoke with her about it a few times. She says she enjoys our sex very much (said I’m the best she had and I believe her) and she understand the things I mentioned above and wants me to feel better about our sexual relationship, but nothing changes.

I REALLY love her, she is the world to me and I want to spend the rest of my life with her, but my sex life is also really important to me and I’m not satisfied with how it’s been in the last 2 years, and I don’t want sex to be like that for the rest of my life.

I don’t know what to do or think about that. I don’t know if I should or want to sacrafice my sexual satisfaction for the girl that conquered my heart.