How can I tell if my girlfriend is really satisfied in bed? /u/Aar0n137 Sex

For me, it’s absolutely crucial to know that my partner is sexually satisfied with me.

My girlfriend and I seem to have great chemistry in bed. She shows a lot of signs of pleasure during our intimate moments, but outside of those moments, she has never given me any feedback or compliments—zero.

This makes me feel anxious and insecure because I worry she might be faking some reactions in the moment just to make me happy.

But then I think: if her goal were just to keep me happy and relaxed, wouldn’t she also give me (even fake) compliments afterward? I mean, it wouldn’t make sense to fake an orgasm so convincingly during sex and then not be able to fake satisfaction with words later, right?

When I say “convincingly,” I mean some of her reactions feel incredibly spontaneous—for example, strong contractions that seem to push me out of her.

I just can’t figure this out. I rely a lot on feedback and verbal communication in general. Hearing her say positive things about our relationship or about me is one of the things that makes me happiest—but when it comes to sex, she doesn’t say anything at all.

I’ve tried to bring this up before, but when I do, she becomes distant and gives very short, cold responses, almost as if my doubts annoy her.

(For context, I’ve always been very attentive during sex, asking her what she likes and making sure I put in effort with foreplay and other things.)

For me, it’s absolutely crucial to know that my partner is sexually satisfied with me.

My girlfriend and I seem to have great chemistry in bed. She shows a lot of signs of pleasure during our intimate moments, but outside of those moments, she has never given me any feedback or compliments—zero.

This makes me feel anxious and insecure because I worry she might be faking some reactions in the moment just to make me happy.

But then I think: if her goal were just to keep me happy and relaxed, wouldn’t she also give me (even fake) compliments afterward? I mean, it wouldn’t make sense to fake an orgasm so convincingly during sex and then not be able to fake satisfaction with words later, right?

When I say “convincingly,” I mean some of her reactions feel incredibly spontaneous—for example, strong contractions that seem to push me out of her.

I just can’t figure this out. I rely a lot on feedback and verbal communication in general. Hearing her say positive things about our relationship or about me is one of the things that makes me happiest—but when it comes to sex, she doesn’t say anything at all.

I’ve tried to bring this up before, but when I do, she becomes distant and gives very short, cold responses, almost as if my doubts annoy her.

(For context, I’ve always been very attentive during sex, asking her what she likes and making sure I put in effort with foreplay and other things.)