Girlfriend and I (M21) had been together for a few months before we had sex. We finally did the deed about a month ago now, which was my first time ever, and have done it plenty of times since, but I feel so much pressure and stress that I’m not pleasing her enough. We’ve mainly just been kissing and fingering for foreplay (she’s not into getting eaten out unfortunately) and missionary for actual intercourse, which I’m pretty content with. She’s a bit older and more experienced and told me at the start how doggy is her favorite position but that doesn’t sound very appealing to me. I really value intimacy when it comes to sex.
Then yesterday she dropped on me how she’s also into hair pulling and choking and would like to get there eventually, and it’s had me kind of freaking out. The idea of hurting, or simulating hurting, her in any way just sounds very far from arousing and I don’t know if I’ll ever get to a point where I’d be okay with something like that. She says we don’t have to, but I always want to do my best and please her because I love her. She’s been very patient with me so far and it means a lot but I’m so fucking nervous about how long that’s going to last and am hating myself for being so vanilla and unexperienced. Am I just being stupid and overthinking? Is it wrong to not be interested in these things without having really tried them before?
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r/sex Girlfriend and I (M21) had been together for a few months before we had sex. We finally did the deed about a month ago now, which was my first time ever, and have done it plenty of times since, but I feel so much pressure and stress that I’m not pleasing her enough. We’ve mainly just been kissing and fingering for foreplay (she’s not into getting eaten out unfortunately) and missionary for actual intercourse, which I’m pretty content with. She’s a bit older and more experienced and told me at the start how doggy is her favorite position but that doesn’t sound very appealing to me. I really value intimacy when it comes to sex. Then yesterday she dropped on me how she’s also into hair pulling and choking and would like to get there eventually, and it’s had me kind of freaking out. The idea of hurting, or simulating hurting, her in any way just sounds very far from arousing and I don’t know if I’ll ever get to a point where I’d be okay with something like that. She says we don’t have to, but I always want to do my best and please her because I love her. She’s been very patient with me so far and it means a lot but I’m so fucking nervous about how long that’s going to last and am hating myself for being so vanilla and unexperienced. Am I just being stupid and overthinking? Is it wrong to not be interested in these things without having really tried them before? submitted by /u/IntelligentAd1244 [link] [comments]
Girlfriend and I (M21) had been together for a few months before we had sex. We finally did the deed about a month ago now, which was my first time ever, and have done it plenty of times since, but I feel so much pressure and stress that I’m not pleasing her enough. We’ve mainly just been kissing and fingering for foreplay (she’s not into getting eaten out unfortunately) and missionary for actual intercourse, which I’m pretty content with. She’s a bit older and more experienced and told me at the start how doggy is her favorite position but that doesn’t sound very appealing to me. I really value intimacy when it comes to sex.
Then yesterday she dropped on me how she’s also into hair pulling and choking and would like to get there eventually, and it’s had me kind of freaking out. The idea of hurting, or simulating hurting, her in any way just sounds very far from arousing and I don’t know if I’ll ever get to a point where I’d be okay with something like that. She says we don’t have to, but I always want to do my best and please her because I love her. She’s been very patient with me so far and it means a lot but I’m so fucking nervous about how long that’s going to last and am hating myself for being so vanilla and unexperienced. Am I just being stupid and overthinking? Is it wrong to not be interested in these things without having really tried them before?
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