Hi, I’m just looking for advice for how I should be approaching a relationship where I, as the male, am not reaching orgasm during intimacy. I know this is more common for women, and I would say its not selfish at all for a women to want to cum, but I just feel guilty as a guy asking every time to try to make me cum. I guess because of the dynamic where a guy shouldn’t force a girl to do anything and I should be happy to be with her — and I am, I enjoy our time together even though I don’t finish because I like to see her happy and make her feel good.
I don’t believe its because she is not interested in me, because we continue to see each other and our relationship is very good outside of this. but she seems to have an aversion to performing sexual acts on me. For instance, I really find oral (both giving and receiving) very intimate, more than regular PIV, however she is very hesitant to giving me head. Its not like I force her head down or am rough with her either. I’ve expressed this before and she says she has no problem with giving head and likes doing it. I don’t often ask for head (as again, it feels selfish) but then when I do, she is very reluctant and its short lived. There are other things too such as lack of foreplay, or enthusiasm or not wanting to try new things but I digress.
I haven’t came with her since we’ve been together and while its not the most ideal situation, her lack of effort is starting to bug me. She says she wants me to, and she wants to be better, but in bed its a different story. I would feel bad to end things because of this because it makes me look like I’m the guy that just wants sex and once I don’t get it I leave her. Would it be/is it selfish? And are there ways to fix this?
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r/sex Hi, I’m just looking for advice for how I should be approaching a relationship where I, as the male, am not reaching orgasm during intimacy. I know this is more common for women, and I would say its not selfish at all for a women to want to cum, but I just feel guilty as a guy asking every time to try to make me cum. I guess because of the dynamic where a guy shouldn’t force a girl to do anything and I should be happy to be with her — and I am, I enjoy our time together even though I don’t finish because I like to see her happy and make her feel good. I don’t believe its because she is not interested in me, because we continue to see each other and our relationship is very good outside of this. but she seems to have an aversion to performing sexual acts on me. For instance, I really find oral (both giving and receiving) very intimate, more than regular PIV, however she is very hesitant to giving me head. Its not like I force her head down or am rough with her either. I’ve expressed this before and she says she has no problem with giving head and likes doing it. I don’t often ask for head (as again, it feels selfish) but then when I do, she is very reluctant and its short lived. There are other things too such as lack of foreplay, or enthusiasm or not wanting to try new things but I digress. I haven’t came with her since we’ve been together and while its not the most ideal situation, her lack of effort is starting to bug me. She says she wants me to, and she wants to be better, but in bed its a different story. I would feel bad to end things because of this because it makes me look like I’m the guy that just wants sex and once I don’t get it I leave her. Would it be/is it selfish? And are there ways to fix this? submitted by /u/InterestingClaim710 [link] [comments]
Hi, I’m just looking for advice for how I should be approaching a relationship where I, as the male, am not reaching orgasm during intimacy. I know this is more common for women, and I would say its not selfish at all for a women to want to cum, but I just feel guilty as a guy asking every time to try to make me cum. I guess because of the dynamic where a guy shouldn’t force a girl to do anything and I should be happy to be with her — and I am, I enjoy our time together even though I don’t finish because I like to see her happy and make her feel good.
I don’t believe its because she is not interested in me, because we continue to see each other and our relationship is very good outside of this. but she seems to have an aversion to performing sexual acts on me. For instance, I really find oral (both giving and receiving) very intimate, more than regular PIV, however she is very hesitant to giving me head. Its not like I force her head down or am rough with her either. I’ve expressed this before and she says she has no problem with giving head and likes doing it. I don’t often ask for head (as again, it feels selfish) but then when I do, she is very reluctant and its short lived. There are other things too such as lack of foreplay, or enthusiasm or not wanting to try new things but I digress.
I haven’t came with her since we’ve been together and while its not the most ideal situation, her lack of effort is starting to bug me. She says she wants me to, and she wants to be better, but in bed its a different story. I would feel bad to end things because of this because it makes me look like I’m the guy that just wants sex and once I don’t get it I leave her. Would it be/is it selfish? And are there ways to fix this?
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