TL;DR: I sometimes panic when my boyfriend restrains me even though I enjoy it.
Me and my boyfriend are each others firsts both romantically and sexually. We’ve been together for several years and he’s always been a kind, thoughtful and hot partner. We haven’t had intercourse yet as we wish to save for marriage (I do not care for what other people choose with their bodies this is just our agreement towards each other) so it’s all been blow or hand jobs.
We like to be a bit kinky doing a bit of roleplay where he dominates me. He’s been rough before and I always enjoyed it but as he was biting my neck and holding me down I started to panic. His bites weren’t painful and this wasn’t anything new yet I just felt my breath fasten and my eyes water. I started to cry and he got off and held me asking me if I’m ok. I just kept sobbing but I didn’t know why I was crying and he hugged me till I felt better and kept apologizing when I know he did nothing wrong. After a few days, night fell once more and I got up in the middle of it to use the bathroom. My boyfriend was asleep and as I crawled back in he wrapped his arms and legs around me in his sleep. The panicky feeling kicked in again and I was sweating a lot. He wasn’t doing anything besides holding me. I could breathe and wasn’t in pain but the constraints frightened me. I had to push him off and get up. Thankfully he sleeps like a rock and didn’t notice. But I was just so confused why I felt so scared. He was doing the cutest things a boyfriend could do and I freaked out.
I 100% am into him biting me and being restrained. I’m even more kinkier than him and come up with a majority of sex scenarios. But for some reason I felt so scared. I thankfully don’t have a history of being sexually assaulted. He is my first sexual partner so there’s no trauma there. And it’s not every time I’m restrained do I freak out, it’s just random and rare. What could this be? Is this just some kind of phobia of sorts? It seems to be a trauma response but I haven’t had any trauma I know that could suggest that.
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r/sex TL;DR: I sometimes panic when my boyfriend restrains me even though I enjoy it. Me and my boyfriend are each others firsts both romantically and sexually. We’ve been together for several years and he’s always been a kind, thoughtful and hot partner. We haven’t had intercourse yet as we wish to save for marriage (I do not care for what other people choose with their bodies this is just our agreement towards each other) so it’s all been blow or hand jobs. We like to be a bit kinky doing a bit of roleplay where he dominates me. He’s been rough before and I always enjoyed it but as he was biting my neck and holding me down I started to panic. His bites weren’t painful and this wasn’t anything new yet I just felt my breath fasten and my eyes water. I started to cry and he got off and held me asking me if I’m ok. I just kept sobbing but I didn’t know why I was crying and he hugged me till I felt better and kept apologizing when I know he did nothing wrong. After a few days, night fell once more and I got up in the middle of it to use the bathroom. My boyfriend was asleep and as I crawled back in he wrapped his arms and legs around me in his sleep. The panicky feeling kicked in again and I was sweating a lot. He wasn’t doing anything besides holding me. I could breathe and wasn’t in pain but the constraints frightened me. I had to push him off and get up. Thankfully he sleeps like a rock and didn’t notice. But I was just so confused why I felt so scared. He was doing the cutest things a boyfriend could do and I freaked out. I 100% am into him biting me and being restrained. I’m even more kinkier than him and come up with a majority of sex scenarios. But for some reason I felt so scared. I thankfully don’t have a history of being sexually assaulted. He is my first sexual partner so there’s no trauma there. And it’s not every time I’m restrained do I freak out, it’s just random and rare. What could this be? Is this just some kind of phobia of sorts? It seems to be a trauma response but I haven’t had any trauma I know that could suggest that. submitted by /u/An_non_moose543 [link] [comments]
TL;DR: I sometimes panic when my boyfriend restrains me even though I enjoy it.
Me and my boyfriend are each others firsts both romantically and sexually. We’ve been together for several years and he’s always been a kind, thoughtful and hot partner. We haven’t had intercourse yet as we wish to save for marriage (I do not care for what other people choose with their bodies this is just our agreement towards each other) so it’s all been blow or hand jobs.
We like to be a bit kinky doing a bit of roleplay where he dominates me. He’s been rough before and I always enjoyed it but as he was biting my neck and holding me down I started to panic. His bites weren’t painful and this wasn’t anything new yet I just felt my breath fasten and my eyes water. I started to cry and he got off and held me asking me if I’m ok. I just kept sobbing but I didn’t know why I was crying and he hugged me till I felt better and kept apologizing when I know he did nothing wrong. After a few days, night fell once more and I got up in the middle of it to use the bathroom. My boyfriend was asleep and as I crawled back in he wrapped his arms and legs around me in his sleep. The panicky feeling kicked in again and I was sweating a lot. He wasn’t doing anything besides holding me. I could breathe and wasn’t in pain but the constraints frightened me. I had to push him off and get up. Thankfully he sleeps like a rock and didn’t notice. But I was just so confused why I felt so scared. He was doing the cutest things a boyfriend could do and I freaked out.
I 100% am into him biting me and being restrained. I’m even more kinkier than him and come up with a majority of sex scenarios. But for some reason I felt so scared. I thankfully don’t have a history of being sexually assaulted. He is my first sexual partner so there’s no trauma there. And it’s not every time I’m restrained do I freak out, it’s just random and rare. What could this be? Is this just some kind of phobia of sorts? It seems to be a trauma response but I haven’t had any trauma I know that could suggest that.
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