Hi! As I’ve been working through issues in my sex life, I’m realizing that a lot of it is tied to a much greater level of sexual shame than I thought I had. I grew up religious, and it took me a long time to even feel comfortable with sex in general. I’ve been having a lot less sex recently due to a shift in the dynamics of my relationship, and I’ve not only been analyzing my sex life with my partner, but just my sex life on my own.
I’m still very ashamed to talk about sex. I want to be more open about it with people I’m close to and that I’m comfortable talking about this kind of stuff with, but I feel like that will destroy their perception of me sometimes. I rarely even make jokes that are tangentially related to sex because I feel like no one except partners I’ve had see me as sexual at all. I also have realized that I still struggle to admit that I’m a sexual being; I almost always have to think about my sexual side as almost another person. Even this account was made to work through sex issues separate from my regular anonymous account.
I worry that part of the reason I’m in the situation I’m in is because I’m so deeply ashamed of sex as a part of me that I’m unwilling to advocate for myself. I feel like there’s a lot more in my sex life that I want to do but don’t give myself the space or time to explore properly. I’ve very recently been starting to reckon with the fact that I want a lot of sex, and am pretty open to trying a lot of things someday. But I don’t really know where to begin with this kind of stuff. I know it’s important and I want to feel more sexually comfortable with myself and embrace it as a part of my identity but I don’t know how to do that. Not to mention as I’ve started to unpack my gender and sexuality identities things have shifted a lot, too. If you’ve been in a similar place, how did you get over your sexual shame and start to feel more sexually liberated? Any tips on how to best take steps towards accepting this part of me?
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r/sex Hi! As I’ve been working through issues in my sex life, I’m realizing that a lot of it is tied to a much greater level of sexual shame than I thought I had. I grew up religious, and it took me a long time to even feel comfortable with sex in general. I’ve been having a lot less sex recently due to a shift in the dynamics of my relationship, and I’ve not only been analyzing my sex life with my partner, but just my sex life on my own. I’m still very ashamed to talk about sex. I want to be more open about it with people I’m close to and that I’m comfortable talking about this kind of stuff with, but I feel like that will destroy their perception of me sometimes. I rarely even make jokes that are tangentially related to sex because I feel like no one except partners I’ve had see me as sexual at all. I also have realized that I still struggle to admit that I’m a sexual being; I almost always have to think about my sexual side as almost another person. Even this account was made to work through sex issues separate from my regular anonymous account. I worry that part of the reason I’m in the situation I’m in is because I’m so deeply ashamed of sex as a part of me that I’m unwilling to advocate for myself. I feel like there’s a lot more in my sex life that I want to do but don’t give myself the space or time to explore properly. I’ve very recently been starting to reckon with the fact that I want a lot of sex, and am pretty open to trying a lot of things someday. But I don’t really know where to begin with this kind of stuff. I know it’s important and I want to feel more sexually comfortable with myself and embrace it as a part of my identity but I don’t know how to do that. Not to mention as I’ve started to unpack my gender and sexuality identities things have shifted a lot, too. If you’ve been in a similar place, how did you get over your sexual shame and start to feel more sexually liberated? Any tips on how to best take steps towards accepting this part of me? submitted by /u/transyconfundida [link] [comments]
Hi! As I’ve been working through issues in my sex life, I’m realizing that a lot of it is tied to a much greater level of sexual shame than I thought I had. I grew up religious, and it took me a long time to even feel comfortable with sex in general. I’ve been having a lot less sex recently due to a shift in the dynamics of my relationship, and I’ve not only been analyzing my sex life with my partner, but just my sex life on my own.
I’m still very ashamed to talk about sex. I want to be more open about it with people I’m close to and that I’m comfortable talking about this kind of stuff with, but I feel like that will destroy their perception of me sometimes. I rarely even make jokes that are tangentially related to sex because I feel like no one except partners I’ve had see me as sexual at all. I also have realized that I still struggle to admit that I’m a sexual being; I almost always have to think about my sexual side as almost another person. Even this account was made to work through sex issues separate from my regular anonymous account.
I worry that part of the reason I’m in the situation I’m in is because I’m so deeply ashamed of sex as a part of me that I’m unwilling to advocate for myself. I feel like there’s a lot more in my sex life that I want to do but don’t give myself the space or time to explore properly. I’ve very recently been starting to reckon with the fact that I want a lot of sex, and am pretty open to trying a lot of things someday. But I don’t really know where to begin with this kind of stuff. I know it’s important and I want to feel more sexually comfortable with myself and embrace it as a part of my identity but I don’t know how to do that. Not to mention as I’ve started to unpack my gender and sexuality identities things have shifted a lot, too. If you’ve been in a similar place, how did you get over your sexual shame and start to feel more sexually liberated? Any tips on how to best take steps towards accepting this part of me?
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